(Closed) bridal shower dilemma… may have to cancel it

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh, that’s awful! Will you be able to get your deposit back on the hall? *hugs* 🙁

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

id just be upset that she lied to you about sending them out. other than that, i dont think 2.5 weeks notice is unreasonable- but i’m confused- you said a lot of people can’t come because they can’t request work off in time?  is your shower on a weekday?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you have a right to be upset. Of course – a shower isn’t necessary and people shouldn’t expect one. But one was being planned for you and now might have to be cancelled – and that sucks. Could you guys reschedule? Or maybe just have a smaller get-together?

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would be a little upset.  Did something happen in her life that needed more of her attention?  I’m sure she didn’t mean to mess up anything.  Why can’t people get off work? What day of the week is your shower?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@mrshfmstr: well honestly, 50 ppl is a HUGE shower, and you never know, some of the people who declined might have also declined if they’d had a month’s notice.  some people just really don’t like showers. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i feel for you, howver I don’t think 2 1/2 weeks is a completely unreasonable timeline to send out invites for showers.  yes, a little delayed but if your mom knew the date ahead of time I’m sure she spoke to relatives to let them know the date.  I would continue planning, even 1/2 the people is still 25, enough for a sucessful shower.  Just try to stay positive and enjoy the experience and not hold a grudge that could carry over to the wedding day!  Hugs!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My shower invites went out 2.5 weeks before the event (a Saturday afternoon).  Only had 3 declines – 2 were courtesy invites to out of town relatives and the other had a last minute schedule conflict outside her control.  We kept it small – about 12 invited (plus their little girls) and it was nice since I was able to spend time with each person talking.  I took a day off to travel (it was 4 hours away).  What day of the week is your shower?

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Personally, I don’t think 2.5 weeks notice is too short. But I can see where you are coming from since the plan was to mail them out a month in advance & she failed to do so.

I agree w/ others 50 is ALOT, the biggest shower I have been to had like 25 people, mine had 15 and it was just enough. You will still have a good tme! Try not to stress and enjoy the fun!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m sorry that you’re in this situation.  I think you are being reasonable in being upset but I would try your hardest to see your MOH’s side and talk it out with her.  Maybe the communication wasn’t clear or she just totally f’ed up and really regrets it?  It also sounds like a bit of bad luck that that day is so busy for people which isn’t necessarily her fault.  In the grand scheme of life if she’s been a good friend to you I’d try to move past it.  Your friendship is probably worth it!  🙂

Also, I’d only cancel if you really want to cancel and not out of disappointment that some of the list can’t come.  I had less than 20 people at my shower and I had a BLAST and felt very loved.  I would enjoy it for what it is!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Your Maid/Matron of Honor shouldn’t have lied to you, but I think 2.5 weeks prior to the shower is plenty of time. I think 20 to 25 people for a shower is plenty. If that many people can make it then it will still be a good shower. If it isn’t too late, maybe you can cancel the hall and have the shower at either your mom’s or your MOHs.

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