Post # 1
This is my first post-I’ve been lurking around the Hive for awhile and I know you ladies always give good advice. Here is my dilemma (sorry this is kind of long):
A family friend called me today to ask about hosting a lingerie shower for me. I have no problem with the idea of a lingerie shower and would love to have a get-together with my friends before the wedding (especially since some of them will not be able to make it to the wedding). The problem is, most of my friends are broke right now due to the crappy economy and other factors. I hate to be so blunt but it’s true. The idea of asking for gifts/money from them makes me sick to my stomach. I haven’t given the lady who wants to host the shower an official answer yet–she asked me to look at my schedule and let her know what I wanted to do. I was thinking about asking her to make the event an informal party (i.e. no gifts) rather than a shower. Do you Bees have any suggestions?
Post # 3
ummm you could do it more along the lines of a bachlorette party kind of….have the party and just tell your guests that they’re not obligated to buy anything. you can still have fun with it and they’re not pressured to buy anything even though it is your shower. talk to the lady who wants to do the party for you. she probably has some suggestions for how to go about it also.
Post # 4
Another girl on the board is someone’s Maid/Matron of Honor and she’s hosting a dessert+recipe idea–everyone brings their favorite dessert and the recipe for it, for you. That sounds informal and fun AND won’t break your friends’ banks.
Half of my bridesmaids were in college when I got married and they went halvsies on my gifts. Honestly, i have lingerie i got back in May and I think i’ve only worn it like, once….i’m sure there’s a piece i haven’t even worn yet, LOL.
Just tell your family friend that you’re worried about your friends being broke. There’s no shame in that (shoot i have broke friends!) and you don’t wnat to be a burden on their finances. She’ll understand.
Or, your friends can go in on a group gift together, which is cheaper than individual pieces, if they feel obligated to come bearing a gift. No matter how broke I am, I don’t show up giftless. Even if it’s a $20 gift, I can’t bring myself to do it.
Post # 5
I think, if you call it a shower, guests will feel obligated to bring something, even if you specify that no gifts are required. I garantee people (who may not be able to comfortably afford to) will buy you something. The good thing about a lingerie shower, is that, unless you’re caught up in name brands, lingerie doesn’t have to be expensive. I like the idea of just having a lunch or a dinner or something really informal. A bachelorette party alone might be good.