Post # 1
I will be having a smaller wedding (around 50-70 guests) consisting almost exclusively of family members and a few very close friends. My fiances family is local, where most of mine live 4+ hours away. My Maid/Matron of Honor, who is also local, has offed to host a shower, but I am not even sure it is worth having. If she hosted it, it would end up being my mom, 5 women from FIs family, and my Maid/Matron of Honor. I would be very surprised if my family drove from hours away to attend.
I have always wanted a bridal shower, but it just doesnt seem like it would work in this situation. If nothing else, I dont think my Maid/Matron of Honor and mom would feel too comfortable being the “odd ones out” with all of my FIs family.
Is there a different option? Just feeling kind of bummed.
Post # 2
Why do you think your mom and moh would feel uncomfortable being outnumbered by your husband’s family membesr? Your moh offered; she must know the dynamic. If you want a shower, I’d take her up on it – it sounds like it could be a nice, intimate affair, which I personally would far prefer to a huge shower with dozens of people. But if you don’t think it sounds like a good time then just graciously decline.
Post # 3
Nothing to feel bummed about. That sounds doable and fun!
Post # 4
Why not just have a big party the night before the wedding with all thr groomsmen and bridesmaids? Go out drinking or out to dinner or something easy and low key.
Post # 5
We had 55 guests at our wedding, and I had a bridal shower. It actually ended up being 14 people because more of my aunts drove for it than I thought would. It was really fun, and I’m glad I had one and didn’t feel like I missed out. I think you should do it!