(Closed) bridal shower drama and I'm still 9 months from the wedding!

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mattsgirl813:  Glad your Mother-In-Law knows she’s throwing you a shower without ASKING you if she could host one?  Duh!  That’s quite an assumption to make.

Assuming your Mom and BMs can host the same guests your Mother-In-Law was planning on inviting, just decline her offer to host.  Maybe your Mom and BMs can reach out to your Mother-In-Law directly to see if she would like to be involved/co-host.

Try not to get riled up about it.  My Mother-In-Law pushed the same issue – “I want to help” and “I want to do X for your shower”… and nothing ever materialized.  Good thing she doesn’t follow through!

Post # 4
46334 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t see that is an imposition to want to hold a shower for you. She could invite her side of the family. Your bridesmaid can invite your side of the family and friends.

A shower with 50 people can be a bit much.

Post # 6
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

your mom and bridesmaids should plan it.. she can always help.  are you having a rehearsal dinner?  let her plan that

Post # 7
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You could just nicely tell her that you think she has already done so much for you and your bridesmaid had generously offered and was already planning it, but maybe pass along her phone number and say that you are sure that she could be involved with the planning.

Post # 8
1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Look at the bright side that you have all these people who want to host a shower. Maybe she can co-host.

Post # 9
8589 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mattsgirl813:  you can have more than one shower.

typically the Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids plans the first one, then anyone else can host a second. 

the bride and bride’s mother do not host.

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