(Closed) Bridal Shower drama to the MAX. GOODNESS.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow! That sounds incredibly difficult, and so frustrating! On the plus side, I like how you haven’t tried to villianise either party here – I think FMILs tend to get a bad rap on this site!

Is there anyone you could put in charge of planning the shower? Say your Maid/Matron of Honor or something? That way, they can delegate duties to both the mothers (hopefully) without all the misunderstandings that seem to be occurring at the moment! If your mother and your Future Mother-In-Law work independently of each other, there may be less occasions for them to disagree?

Unfortunately, though, if you step in, then they might respond badly – I can’t imagine a “child” having to tell the parents to behave themselves!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

@aranel1002:  Technically, neither of them should be planning the bridal shower. Since the whole purpose of the shower is to give you gifts, it is not appropriate for the moms to host it. It should be thrown by friends, preferably your bridesmaids.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Are we sisters? I think your mom is maybe my mom…

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It sounds like they won’t be able to work together. Can you give each of them separate tasks that they can do independently so they won’t have to interact?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@aranel1002:  everything with her is a sensitive topic, everyone is probably ALWAYS talking about her behind her back saying she’s crazy or something of that sort (because they have nothing better to do clearly…)jokes are never jokes, because even though anyone else would have laughed about it, she cries that people are making fun of her or defends herself for hours to come over something that was light heartedly funny.  If you don’t do something, you don’t love her, if you do it in a way she thinks was because you had to, you don’t love her.  It’s an ongoing battle.

Most recent example – someone ELSE posted a pic of my sister, dad and myself.  SOMEONE ELSE. She then posts on the pic “why isn’t there a pic of me with you two girls? =(” knowing her, i know she was sitting there thinking i am embarrassed of her, I don’t love her as much as I love my dad, or I just plain didn’t care enough about her to post one.  So I asked her to ask someone who took a pic of us why it wasn’t there, as I had already told her I don’t have the pro pics back……”oh…I thought you had them back”….yes, of course you assumed the worst..aaaahhhhhhh

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