(Closed) bridal shower drama

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

First off, I would tell your Fiance to grow a pair and talk to his mother like an adult. He can’t make you the bad person in all of this. Doesn’t he care how uncomfortable you will be if he does this? Second, as far as the registering goes, that is odd and I hoope you can return what you don’t want as well. What exactly did she pick out? Why didn’t you register if you were having a shower?

Post # 4
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am sorry for your troubles… *hugs*  You should be able to return everything.  I would close the registry ASAP.  Get access to it and delete everything from it.  I would be so mad if it were me. 

As for the girls being slaves.  Have you talked to them.  Apologize to them, after the party talk to your Future Mother-In-Law…

And as for the boy not going… try and get him to drop you off and then leave.. that way it itsnt “all your fault” I know that it kinda pushes the blame onto him, but its his mom, he needs to talk to her….

Post # 6
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow. That is a lot. I’m sorry your Fiance won’t step up to talk to his mom. Sounds like that is something unlikely to change. Which means in the future, you will have to take that role – to step up to her when it comes to raising kids, or family vacations, or whatever other troublesome family hiccups arise in the future. Therefore, I suggest you try to talk to your Future Mother-In-Law directly. Explain to her your frusterations about her registering behind your back, your wishes to not have a registry, and your plans to buy things too large for the registry in the future. Now, whether or not this is a good idea to do before the shower, I’m not so sure. I would probably go to the shower, be gracious to all the guests who may be completely clueless to your Future Mother-In-Law doing the registering for you. The guests are probably in the mind set that they are following YOUR registry. Then, after the shower is over, I would talk to your Future Mother-In-Law. But what a horribly sticky situation.

Post # 7
144 posts
Blushing bee

Good on your bridesmaid who plans to stick up for you!

I would simply hire a couple of high school girls, pay them in advance, and have them show up at evil MIL’s house two hours early to help set up.

You and bm’s all show up on time for the party only.

Leave when it’s over – let Miss Control Everyboy and Everything clean up.

Pay for them with FI’s money.  It’s his high-maintenance mother, not yours.


Remember: when you have kids, you will be the Sole Gatekeeper for Access to them.  If she doesnt’ treat you well, she doesn’t get access to the kids.

If she gets too evil before the wedding, let her know your policy now.


HUGS and good luck to you!

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