(Closed) Bridal Shower Etiquette

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

You aren’t the one sending out the invites- the hostess is.  So, if she wants to include her friends then I think it’s OK.

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I wouldn’t personally invite them. BUT, if your friend is the one throwing the shower, and therefore doing the inviting, and she wants to invite them than I think it’s fine. If you think they know they are not invited to the wedding then they can decide for themselves if they want to come to the shower or not!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

I think for my friend’s shower, her FMIL’s friends were invited as a way of celebrating the marriage. They weren’t close enough for wedding invites, but wanted to do something since their friend’s son was getting married. I think as long as the women who don’t make the wedding list know, they’re probably ok.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

If you can’t invite them to the wedding it would be a nice idea to send them a wedding anouncement afterwards so they have a keepsake.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We are having a shower in Houston where I will basically know no one- except his immediate family. So no, they aren’t invited to the wedding, but his mother insists on the shower! But I really like the idea of sending out a wedding announcement afterwards! Good call!!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We ended up having a few people over who were not invited to the wedding, but were invited to a more inclusive reception (a dance party on another day for our larger circle of friends).  I snmcdowell has a great suggestion of sending some sort of keepsake/announcement in addition to a thank you. 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think in this case it’s ok. I find that it happens a lot in the South where I’m from. Mother’s and MIL’s friends were pretty common at all of our wedding showers, but most were not at the weddings. It’s probably just a thing they want to share with her. Have fun!

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