Post # 1
My shower is coming up, and some people who cannot attend have been sending gifts to my house. My mother-in-law to be says I need to thank them and list their gifts at the shower. Is that common? I feel like it would be strange to say “Thank you to Jane Smith for the luggage she got us, and Judy Smith for the plates and forks and knives.”<br /><br />Opinions? Thanks!
Post # 2
FunnyGirl1224: Depending on how many gifts are delivered by those who can’t attend, you could display them at the shower, then thank “those who were unable to attend today”.
Post # 3
I took all gifts that people sent and opened them at the shower saying who they are from. That’s the norm in my area.
Post # 4
I’ve never seen that One. Around here we would just send a thank you card and say sorry to miss you at the shower
Post # 5
I am planning on opening them at the shower!
Post # 6
FunnyGirl1224: I wrote thank you cards to people who sent me shower gifts and couldn’t attend. Something like “Thank you so much for the _. Sorry to have missed you at the shower, hope to see you at the wedding!”
I didn’t make any mention of the mailed gifts at my shower.
Post # 7
I’ve never heard of doing something like this. I sent out thank you cards, but I don’t think the act of opening them at the shower is common around here. Plus, it’s kind of a hassle to take it to your shower, and then take it back home.
Post # 8
The only time I saw someone make a big thing about gifts from people who couldn’t go to the shower was my cousin’s wife. They live halfway across the country from our family, so most of our family sent our gifts directly to their house, rather than have her open them at the shower then have to lug them (or ship them) home. They made a photo slide show of them opening each of the gifts and had it running on a laptop at the shower, which was a cute way for our family to get to see them open our gifts without the hassle of actually having the gifts there.
Other than a situation like that, though, as long as each gift giver gets a thank you card, I don’t see why you’d make a big thing about the gifts at the shower itself.
Post # 9
I think I’d rather watch paint dry, than see people opening any more gifts, than I have to.
It’s not the norm around here, thank goodness, to haul everything to the shower, and open it there, and haul it back home. My daughter’s bridal shower was 8 days ago. Before she started opening the gifts that were brought to the shower, she acknowledged the gifts and people who gave them earlier like the big box of pots and pans, that I gave her, and the vaccuum, that my mother gave. She didn’t mention those who didn’t attend, but still sent gifts (very few).