(Closed) Bridal Shower Etiquette – Who to Invite If I’m the One Traveling?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think its poor form. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Typically it’s bad for form to invite someone to a shower and not the wedding.  Personally, I would be hurt if I was invited to a shower but not a wedding.  Since you are driving all that way I’d suggest getting together with non-wedding invitees after the shower or the next day to see them! 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Goldilocks- I guess I am a little late on this issue! However, it is a topic that is current to what I am going through. I am in the exact situation you are (were?) in – except I need to take a plane from my current city to my ‘hometown’ for the shower my Maid/Matron of Honor is putting together. We are having a Jack and Jill couples shower. I am planning on inviting my old HS friends and college friends who I don’t speak to on a regular basis, but as impacted my life one time or another. Because our wedding is a small destination wedding, and is informal (no reception, no church, and a short ceremony on the beach), I didn’t invite all of my friends to the wedding. However, I am inviting them to this informal shower at the park with BBQ. It gives me a chance to celebrate our union with my friends that I don’t get to see very often. I think it is fine, especially in our current economy, to invite people to a shower that they are more likely to go to (b/c of proximity) and to make them feel like they are still important member of our lives. You don’t even need to call it a ‘shower’ if you aren’t having gifts. 

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

This is a tough one – do you think these ladies are sad that they didn’t get an invitation? I’m assuming they wouldn’t go anyway, b/c of the distance and not necessarily being close with you. Normally i’d say no, but carefully crafted (aka, not a “shower”) I think you could get away with having a party to see them.  Could your aunt say something like “my lovely niece from Far Away City will be in town for a visit this weekend – please join us for a casual brunch to celebrate her engagement and to catch up with old friends!”

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Melissa: I love that wording! “Catch up with old friends.” I might just use it! Thanks!

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