(Closed) Bridal Shower – FAIL (Rant)

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I am so sorry that happened!!!!  🙁

Post # 4
3266 posts
Sugar bee

@MrsPocahontas:  I’m sorry it was such a disappointment.

I would take your wedding out of it and call them all to make sure they are ok.  If this isn’t like them then they may not be ok.

It is also ok to re-evaluate your relationship with them.  They dont’ really sound like best friends.

Post # 5
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

What a nightmare!  The baseball game/Facebook thing would have pissed me off the most.  Well, now you know not to go out of your way for them when they get married/have a baby shower, whatever.  Sorry this happened to you!

Post # 6
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Aww I’m sorry things didn’t pan out like you wanted but I wouldn’t call everything a waste… You did have some people still show up to be there for you. I do think its terribly rude for those people to either not show up, or call to say they were on their way but then never show. I would be pretty upset as well.


Post # 7
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MrsPocahontas:  I think it’s so rude when people flake out of things that they committed themselves to attend! Obviously, emergencies happen that cause people to change their plans, but a lot of these excuses seemed like a result of bad planning on your guests’ part. I’m so sorry this happened in such an overwhelming volume for your shower. I hope you can focus on the good parts!

Post # 8
1402 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014


I really hope no bees give you a hard time.

I once had a party that was very important to me and only a couple people showed up.  It made me question everything – who I was as a person, does nobody like me? If I had done anything wrong to these people.  It almost traumatized me I was so upset and embarrassed over it.  We bought so much food for so many people and we had leftovers for weeks because of it.

I don’t think having a talk with some of those ladies would be out of line.  Especially your “best friend” shame on them.

Post # 11
1524 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

This is the main reason why I hate throwing parties in honor of myself…fear that no one will show and I will be so embarassed. I’m so sorry this happened to you…it’s pretty shitty of them all. I would definately talk to your bridal party and express your feelings. A baseball game??? So rude.

Post # 12
881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MrsPocahontas:  That is AWFUL and the fact that you ranted here instead of to them shows you are calmer than I would have been. Sounds like you are acting awesome given the circumstances! Hope your wedding is wonderful and like you said WAIT FOR NO ONE! 

Post # 13
2841 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MrsPocahontas:  You were my shower twin- and I am so sorry you had this experience!! 🙁


I can relate- I had one friend (R)- who over and over and over would tell me everytime we talked “I can’t wait for your  shower” (I can’t lie- I was pretty sure she was more excited than me)— and she never showed, nor did she contact me in ANY sort of way to tell me she wasn’t coming.  I text her yesterday- no reply- and then I send one last text this morning asking her what’s up.  She did call me back a few minutes later- but my ringer was off and I wasn’t in the room- and I have yet to call her back.  I will, but knowing her, she will have some excuse and get all defensive and it will just annoy me because I know her.  That said- I didn’t think she wouldn’t show up.


Just her bummed me out/peeved me a little- (because seriously- it’s cool if you cannot make my shower for some reason- NOT cool when you talk about non-stop (she brings it up, not me) and then don’t show/communicate)—

One thing I have learned in this wedding process- there are lots of people who support you very little.  Even if you don’t expect anything from them- you realize they are just plain unsupportive.  I have had a hard time dealing with this and it has taken a bit of the joy out of the wedding process!!


I’m so sorry that happened!!  {{hugs!}}

Post # 14
927 posts
Busy bee

@MrsPocahontas:  I’m so sorry this happened.  I had a close friend rsvp yes and then no show up but post pictures of her on a boat with her boyfriend.  I was really frustrated and that was just one person.  I can’t imagine having that many people rsvp yes and not show up.  It stinks it ruined your party.  🙁

Post # 15
1402 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MrsEME:  I have a feeling one of my soon-to-be relatives is exactly like your friend.  These people blow so much smoke up your ass, they act SO excited, blow hot, so hot that when they don’t show up it will just come across as confusing instead of rude.  After all, it’s a lot easier to gchat someone about how excited you are for the shower than actually show up and be there for a person.


I’ll respect someone a hell of a lot more if they just tell me they can’t make it and call it a day.  I don’t need circus tricks and for you to pretend that you’re “so upset!” you can’t make it.  I can see through that shit in a heartbeat.




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