Bridal shower flaky friends

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Busy bee

Honestly, I think you’re over analyzing this. You said you had a beautiful day, so focus on that! People are flakes, things come up, schedules are busy, etc. You don’t need to “go” anywhere from here. You just need to move on with your life and enjoy this time leading up to your wedding. Holding people to standards you personally find reasonable often leads to disappointment.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Where do you go from where? The event is over. The friendships do not need to be. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee

Sadly, some people don’t prioritize/care about our weddings as much as we like them to. It happens to most people, not just you. 

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classicbridalbliss :  

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper

I would not be in a big rush to invite these people anywhere else anytime soon or to rely on them. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Have you not already invited them to the wedding if they were invited to your bridal shower?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

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classicbridalbliss :  A bridal shower and wedding are two totally different events.  My cousin is getting married this weekend and it’s been on our calendar since January.  Her shower was early May and we were invited about two weeks prior.  We had several things going on that weekend and just couldn’t swing going to the shower.   

You’re being petty if you are considering not inviting them now to your wedding.  

Post # 12
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Busy bee

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classicbridalbliss :  Obviously do what you want, but if you’ve sent save the dates and you just don’t invite them that’s rude as hell. I hate to be blunt, but people have things to do outside of celebrate your marriage. Sure, they should have let someone know they couldn’t make it, but it’s hardly the end of the world. 

ETA: I just noticed your wedding is in July- why have you not sent your invites yet?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I just wanted to say I’m sorry people are so flaky. It’s not that hard to write something on a calendar and stick to it. I think everyone understands life gets in the way sometimes. But I think a  majority of the time, people just forget or don’t feel like going. 

I would kill to go to my friend’s showers! I have to take a plane home so I’ve had to skip 3 of my closest friend’s showers. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Haven’t you sent the invitations to the wedding already? I’m assuming so since you have had your shower, and if this is the case you can’t uninvite them. As far as your FI’s BF, I’m sure he will be bringing his Fiance to the wedding, so that’s a no go. Honestly, just because they didn’t come to your shower doesn’t mean they won’t come to the wedding. They may think the wedding is more important. 

Nevertheless, I feel where you are coming from. I abhor flakes. It’s disrespectful and careless in my opinion. My thoughts are, I am busy and I have a life like everyone else. I have the same 24 hours that you do, and somehow I manage to remember to come to events that are important to those who are important to me. Either way, you can’t be petty and uninvite them, especially if they were invited to the shower. I would just adjust my friendship level going forward. I’m sorry. I know this sucks. Just be there for those who are there for you. It sounds like your VIPs came to the shower. Put your energy into those relationships. 

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