(Closed) Bridal Shower for a 2nd time bride?? Will this anger the etiquette gods?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 91
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@milesbella:That is a very intellectual response.  As your story sounds very much like my own, age difference and all.  I couldn’t have said it better myself…KUDOS to you!!!

Post # 92
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Helper bee

It won’t anger the snobs, but it isn’t necessary.  If your close friends want to do something for you, let them give you a bachelorette party; but you aren’t a first time bride who has nothing.  You’ve got everything you already use I assume unless you moved back with mom/pop.

You need to set the tone and tell people ahead of time “I don’t want a shower and I truly hope  no one wants to suprirse me with one because I don’t do suprises well and this would embarass me.  I’m not a first time bride.”  Say it straight up so people don’t think you’re saying it but you don’t really mean it.

If it is his first marriage, you said nothing about that; then let him have a shower and let him register for tools, lawn mover, snow blower, kind of stuff.

If you’re not marrying a man, and if it is her first marriage, then I think a tea would be appropriate where she gets gifts like personalized stationery, address labels, gift certificatess and anything that is her hobby [gardening, whatever…]

If you both want ‘new stuff’ and one or both have been married before, then register for the wedding only and skip the shower for the both of you.

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Wannabee

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luckyprincess:  I am in the same boat my family refuses to in fear of getting back lash.   

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