(Closed) Bridal Shower for Non Traditional Bride and Who to Invite and Who Pays?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would mention to your mother the conversation you overheard, and ask her if you can help out on the guest list issues, money issues, etc.  As far as your Future Mother-In-Law and her “exacting” requirements, well, that’s her issue, and no one can expect guests to be 100% “perfect”.


Post # 4
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

completely off topic, but did you go to UCSB??

Post # 6
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@gaucho25:  Honestly…I agree with your fiance, as hard as that might be. Especially if both families have enough tact to leave you out of it/can fake it til they make it. The shower is supposed to be a celebration, it’s supposed to be fun, it’s supposed to make you excited and happy. What matters is that YOU get along with everyone, and that your Future Mother-In-Law likes you–she doesn’t have to like your family (presumably, they will have enough tact to behave at your wedding! Then beyond that, they might see each other once every couple years, IF that!). Perhaps I’m giving people too much credit here, but I think when people are excited about weddings, they understand that the focus is on the bride and groom, and they want to do whatever they can to make the bride & groom happy. So if you can, let them handle it–if not, any chance your go-to girls can help out with planning, politics, etc., since they know what you want/your concerns? Either way–let someone else do the dirty work–you should do everything you can to relax/enjoy it. Just give them all big thank-yous later 🙂

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