(Closed) Bridal Shower Gift Etiquette- Out of Town Bride?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper

She can always ship or return big or heavy items and reorder out of the local store for pickup. It’s not unreasonable to ask the host what she suggests or what the bride plans to do. 

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think the breadmaker would make a great wedding gift. I think it would be very thoughtful to have the breadmaker shipped to her home, It saves her the trouble of returning it or paying to have it shipped.

Wedding gifts should always be sent ahead of the wedding, but many people were never taught proper etiquette.

I would take a card to the shower with a smaller gift, suitable for a shower. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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bayoubee :  It is extremely thoughtful to have it shipped! I had my bridal shower just a quick drive from home and was still very grateful a friend shipped a heavier item to my home. Saved us having to lug it to and from the car!

A cute breadmaker-related thing would be awesome. Even maybe just a nice, homemade or fancy jam? A cute bread basket? That would be cool. But just a card would work just as well!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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bayoubee :  You can include a note with the gift that references wanting to send the “wedding” gift to her home.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Last time I ordered a gift from bed bath and beyond, you could choose when to have it shipped. So if you want to get her the bread maker for a wedding gift, order it now with your coupon and have  it shipped to her closer to her wedding!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’m going to be doing the same thing and my bridesmaids are planning to ask that gifts are sent to my home and cards are brought to the shower instead. I live 500 miles away and across a border – if you can ship it that is the most thoughtful thing you could do. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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bayoubee :  that is a great idea! If i was the bride i would be super happy not having to lung a breadmaker half way accross the country!

Post # 10
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Worker bee

“Would it be etiquettely approved to buy her the breadmaker, have it shipped to her house, and give her a card at the shower with a picture of the breadmaker?”

I think it would be preferred by the bride and she would appreciate your thought for her travel. 

Post # 11
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Newbee

Just an FYI, Bed Bath and Beyond always honors their coupons regardless of the expiration date. I save them for years.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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bayoubee :  I shipped my cousin’s gift to her FMIL’s house because I was flying in and everything on her registry was glass (or things like knives you can’t fly with). 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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bayoubee :  Several guests arranged to have gifts shipped to my home in the days shortly after my shower. At the shower, they gave me cards with a printed-out image of the gift that was being sent to me. I appreciated that we wouldn’t have to get the item from the shower location to our home but that they still tried to make it be a surprise at the shower itself.

TL;DR, several people did this for me and it worked great.

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