(Closed) Bridal shower gift etiquette

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
1325 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think you should send it to the shower host, that seems odd to me.  I think you should send it directly to the bride with a nice card about how sorry you were you couldn’t make it. 

Post # 4
5789 posts
Bee Keeper

Sure. I don’t think you should be expected to send a gift to both showers, so it makes sense to send the gift to the person you know. I wouldn’t send it to the bride, as it may be a surprise shower and that would ruin it for her.

Post # 5
3318 posts
Sugar bee

An invitation doesn’t obligate you to send a gift.  If you want to send a gift, send one.  If you don’t want to/feel close to the couple then you shouldn’t. 

It is very forward of them to invite you to a shower for someone you have never met.

Post # 6
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You aren’t obligated to send a gift at all. I didn’t expect gifts from people who didn’t attend my shower, although it was a nice surprise when some people sent me them/gave them to me later. So its really your choice!

Post # 7
994 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s fine to send the gift to the one where you know the hosts. You are not obligated to buy two presents.

I don’t think they should have technically invited you to such far-away showers.

Post # 8
4334 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t send a gift. You’ll be going to the wedding, and you (or your BF) will be giving them a gift there, so you should be covered!

My FI’s family is throwing me a shower, and I’m sure there will people there that I don’t or hardly know… I do dislike how that looks–their being asked to give me a gift when they hardly know me! But oh well, it’s not me who is planning it or inviting people! So I really don’t care if people I’ve never met don’t come or don’t give me a gift! So I’m sure the bride in this case feels the same…and if she doesn’t? Then she’s not the kind of person that you should care what she thinks! 😀

Post # 9
1504 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’d probably send a gift directly to the bride. Most registries give you the option of sending the gift to the couple through the store when you purchase it.

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