Post # 1
I’m in a very strange position. My boyfriend’s nephew is getting married. They’re fairly close but I’ve never met him or the bride since they live on the other side of the country. But, I have spent time with the groom’s parents. I was invited to two different showers, both of which are in states far from where I live so I won’t be attending either. One of them, though, is being thrown by the mothers of the couple (my boyfriend’s sister-in-law).
Is proper etiquette to send a gift to the one thrown by the person I know?
Post # 3
I don’t think you should send it to the shower host, that seems odd to me. I think you should send it directly to the bride with a nice card about how sorry you were you couldn’t make it.
Post # 4
Sure. I don’t think you should be expected to send a gift to both showers, so it makes sense to send the gift to the person you know. I wouldn’t send it to the bride, as it may be a surprise shower and that would ruin it for her.
Post # 5
An invitation doesn’t obligate you to send a gift. If you want to send a gift, send one. If you don’t want to/feel close to the couple then you shouldn’t.
It is very forward of them to invite you to a shower for someone you have never met.
Post # 6
You aren’t obligated to send a gift at all. I didn’t expect gifts from people who didn’t attend my shower, although it was a nice surprise when some people sent me them/gave them to me later. So its really your choice!
Post # 7
I think it’s fine to send the gift to the one where you know the hosts. You are not obligated to buy two presents.
I don’t think they should have technically invited you to such far-away showers.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t send a gift. You’ll be going to the wedding, and you (or your BF) will be giving them a gift there, so you should be covered!
My FI’s family is throwing me a shower, and I’m sure there will people there that I don’t or hardly know… I do dislike how that looks–their being asked to give me a gift when they hardly know me! But oh well, it’s not me who is planning it or inviting people! So I really don’t care if people I’ve never met don’t come or don’t give me a gift! So I’m sure the bride in this case feels the same…and if she doesn’t? Then she’s not the kind of person that you should care what she thinks! 😀
Post # 9
I’d probably send a gift directly to the bride. Most registries give you the option of sending the gift to the couple through the store when you purchase it.