(Closed) Bridal shower gift giving… help?!

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How much should I spend on the bridal shower gift?






  • Post # 3
    124 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I like to bring gifts that reflect my personality and the relationship that I have with the bride.  Just as an example, when my Future Sister-In-Law was getting married, I chose one thing off her registry- the perfect brownie pan ($20 or so) and paired it with a nice mixing bowl, nice spatula, and a few boxes of bownie mix… in total probably less than $50, but she loved the gift and was able to go home and make them right away.

    It’s all in the presentation!


    Post # 4
    495 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I would say nothing too crazy expensive, but something in the $50-$60 range. If there are no items that you like in that price range a gift card would be great so she can purchase some of the larger gifts off of the registry.

    Post # 5
    6377 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’d say $50 or so for someone you’re not particularly close to.

    Post # 6
    1094 posts
    Bumble bee

    First of all, you do have to give a gift at a shower, but it need not be from the registry. A registry is the brides’s personal plan for setting up her household. It will let you know her tastes, and if she has registered for classic household goods it will let you know her patterns and sizes. If you were a good friend of the bride you would know some of that anyway, and “snooping” through her registry might not be necessary. 

    Armed with your knowledge of the bride’s tastes and choices and with your own good judgement and experience, you then have completely free rein to pick a gift. It is in better taste to give a clever or imaginative gift rather than an ostentatious or expensive one. This is because a shower is the one event where a gift is mandatory, and gifts will be opened publicly. An ostentatious gift might embarrass other guests who gave somethimg more modest, and should embarrass the bride who is being publicly placed in the donor’s debt.

    Shower gifts should be something to help the bride set up her new home. Look for the kind of thing that you need to just have around but might not have acquired yet, like tea towels or potato peelers; or that get worn out or used up and need frequent replacement, are particularly appropriate,like the brownie-ingredients set previously mentioned, or spices; or that would be home-made except for the home’s being in startup mode, like jars of jams and canning, or knitted dishcloths (a great way to practice new fancy stitches –knit them from butcher’s twine). Clever gadgets that you have discovered and have proved invaluable in your own household are a good choice, even if it is something quite inexpensive. A gift should always be valuable for something other than its price — in this case it is your experience with it, or your resourcefulness in being able to find some obscure item, or your craft skill, that lends non-commercial  worth to the gift.

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