Post # 1
Having never been to a bridal shower, I’m wondering, are you supposed to get items off the registry? The invite did list where she was registered, but my Mom said that she’d never been to a shower where gifts were purchased from the registry…
Also, my budget for a gift (since I’ve flown to the bachelorette weekend, am flying to the wedding, taking 2 days off work & am a BM) is $45-60- but the cheapest thing is $44… and I feel weird giving a single potato masher… weird, right? I could easily hop over to Crate & Barrel and pick up some cute outdoor drink glasses or something similar since she just got her patio table. Opinions?
Post # 2
I always try to buy off the registry or get a gift card for the places they’re registered.
Post # 3
there is no law that says you have to stick to the registry. especially if you’re a Bridesmaid or Best Man and you’ve been to her home I think you’re in a great position to pick something yourself that you know she’ll really like.
Post # 4
I always buy gifts from the registry. And every shower I’ve been to it seems like 90% of the gifts are from the registry. However, if you would like to go off-registry then that’s totally acceptable as well!
Post # 5
If you’re not going to give a gift off the registry and I suggest giving a gift card to a place like Target, Crate & Barrel or Bed Bath & Beyond. I Imagine your feelings will be hurt if you buy her gift and then she tries to exchange it, or regifting it. Any of the gifts I received at my wedding shower that I did not like, if they did not come with a receipt I donated to the Salvation Army.
Post # 6
I just had my shower and I only got a couple of gifts from my registry…honestly…I feel like the shower is about the bride and not the couple…give her something for HER…I got a couple of cute tasteful nighties, a couple of gift cards, things that were just for pampering me 🙂
Post # 7
If you’re going to go off registry, I would suggest purchasing something personalized. I wouldn’t go buy another item from a different store because it might not be her taste or she may already have it/doesn’t match what she already has. Honestly, I returned everything I got that wasn’t on my registry because of those reasons.
I received one of these decorative personalized cutting boards and absolutely love it! It’s on display in my kitchen and I look at it every day and think of the person who gifted it to me.\
Groupon also has these discounted, along with other fun items like hot pads, wooden spoons, coasters, house signs, etc.
Post # 8
If it’s someone you’re close to, get her something you know she’ll like! Assuming you have a relationship with her, she’ll probably appreciate a thoughtful, personal gift at least as much as or more than whatever registry item because it comes from the heart. I know I would!
As a side note though – what kind of potato masher costs $44??? Does it peel the potatoes by magic?? Damn. Ours was $15 and I thought that was high end.
Post # 9
I just had my bridal shower Friday and 90% of what I got was off the registry – which is great – since I picked it all. We also got gift cards to where we were registered. The only items I got that were not on my registry ended up being duplicate gifts of something I had on my registry *example, I had a wooden salad bowl set on my registry and recieved it, and someone purchased me a $175 dollar salad bowl and tongs from the bay and I am scared to even pick it up because its so expensive LOL
I say go with a gift card to the store where she is registered to avoid any duplication, or get something personalized, like a necklace engraved with her wedding date or something (stella and dot has amazing stuff)!
Post # 10
Totally ok not to buy off the registry, but just do be aware that your taste might not match hers, so get gift receipts where possible or, as PP’s have said, buy something personalized, lingerie if it’s appropriate based on your relationship with her and who will be at the shower, or get cute and creative. I created a “breakfast in bed” basket for my best friend for her shower and threw in little things that referred to inside jokes between us. You can do a beauty-themed gift, or a “date night in” package like with movies and popcorn and a soft blanket, gift cards/certificates to places where the couple can enjoy a date out, etc.
Post # 11
Go ahead and get the potato masher they want – then pair it with some dish towels that match their kitchen, or a treat you know they’d like. It’s not cheap of you, they want
it. (though really, why does a potato masher cost so much? goodness)
Post # 12
I agree with the PPs, either get a gift card to a store she’s registered at or just go with the item you can afford on the registry. If you really want to buy an actual gift not on the registry, then I’d say to try to stay away from stuff like glasses or other kitchen things where she probably either has ones she likes or registered for similar ones that she already wants, so a more personalized gift might be better. For example, someone got me cute luggage tags for our honeymoon that are fun, and don’t conflict with anything we had already.
Post # 13
Having just had my shower on Saturday…I loved receiving the items off of my registry. Everything I chose was for a reason. The items that were not on my registry are nice but some honestly i have no use for or already have.
I actually like the single potato masher idea. A) Its on the registry so you know they want it…B)It must be one heck of a spud buster at $44 cause my fork does the same thing for nothing, so they know the difference. Just get a bit creative with it. I would buy it, and a nice mixing bowl and fill it like a gift basket with potatoes and some seasonings, make a cheesy pun for the gift tag and volia! she gets her over priced masher that she will adore every time she makes potatoes.
Post # 14
I’d get the masher. I once bought a garbage can from someones registry for their shower. It was at the 50$ pp and I wasn’t able to attend the shower.
If that feels weird too then maybe a gift card, or maybe the masher and something small.
Post # 15
I usually try to go off the registry. If items in my price range are picked over I’ll get a gift card to one of the places where they registered.
That said, you don’t have to use the registry. I have done that once, and only that was because I knew the bride’s tastes and it was an excuse to buy something I knew she would appreciate but not spend the money on in real life (a bunch of kate spade stationary). I supplemented with a few small items from the registry and tt seemed to go over well.