Post # 1
Sooo… my bridal shower was this weekend… it was lovely… my girls and my mom did an amazing job… plus anything that involves good food/booze/and my wonderful friends and family is a good time.
Buttttt…. one of my aunts who is super friendly and sweet (slightly fake, but whatever) who I see at maybe one or two family events a year was in attendence. And she was over the top with omg, you’re so pretty and omg, let me take photos of you, and blah blah blah… anyway… I open my gifts, and they are awesome, and than I get to her gift… it’s like 5 -6 difference peices from a particular “high-end” “designer”… and than she says “I designed these for you in particular”…. ughhhh… so she works for a designer who than sells their designs to other brands… so they have samples all over their workshop… and these are not “real” items… they have knicks and cuts, use sub-par materials (not real leather), and generally are a lower quality than what you can buy in China Town… and this is what she gave me / told me she “designed for me”…which is crap, because all of this was right off the shop floor… with scratches and knicks… These are mock-ups without all of the beautiful detail that I personally buy my designer goods for – made of cheap alternative materials… This is a women with a REAL Chanel purses.. who values her fashion… the bag she had with her at the shower was at least $3K. I just dont understand why she had to give these to me, make a big deal of it, and tell me they were for me in particular… I would have much much much more appreciated her getting me a couple <$10 cutting boards off my registry and calling it a day. Instead – I honestly feel offended… did she not realize that I was into fashion enough to know that these are absolute crap? I guess she thinks I’m some bumkin that would have started screaming like I won the lotto when I saw these? In person I plastered on my best, oh my you really are the most amazing aunt ever smile.. and thanked her, but it’s now the more I think about it the more angry I get…
I realize these are “first world problems” and I’m complaining that I recieved a gift, and I should be thankful for any gift I get… but…. ugh, I just really needed to vent.
Post # 2
I’d be sure to include all of this in your thank-you note to her–that would probably solve your problem of ever having to worry about getting a ‘sub-par’ gift from her again…or any gift for that matter.
Post # 4
While I would be embarrassed to be given knock offs I would just say thanks and move on. Absolutely do not talk to other people about it, if it got back to her she would likely be quite sad/ embarrassed.
Post # 5
WeddingBecks: As long as it’s not a My Little Pony Friendship handbag, I say you should just accept it gracefully.
Post # 6
WeddingBecks: Would you be just as upset if she had shown up without a gift? You could just throw the items away and call it a day. Venting about a gift that someone went to the trouble of designing for you just makes you seem ungrateful.
Post # 7
I just wasted 2 mins of my life I can’t get back reading that.
Post # 8
housebee: But that’s the thing – I know she didn’t go through the trouble of anything… she just said she did… also, honestly, I would have much rather she shown up without a gift.
Idk, it felt like she was trying to pull one over on me… but I know, a gift is a gift… and OBVIOUSLY I wouldnt say anything to her about it…
Post # 9
I’d just toss them or donate them to charity and go on about your business. Life is just way too short to get upset over this! Who cares if the gift wasn’t that great?
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Post # 11
WeddingBecks: I’ve received plenty of gifts in my life that I would honestly have rather gotten nothing than whatever space-taking-up ugly POS someone gave me. But the Bee loses its mind whenever someone mentions not liking a gift, so this thread is going to go to hell quickly. Apparently nobody on this site has ever received some fugly borderline offensive garbage gift before!
Post # 12
Is it not possible that she wasn’t lying and they were made for you in particular? You said she values nice bags, so maybe she really thought these were nice/your taste? I’m not sure why you’d be angry. It’s better to just assume that she was trying to be thoughtful, thank her, appreciate the gesture, and move on.
Post # 13
iarebridezilla: I have. Plenty of times. The art of being an adult is to smile graciously, thank the giver, and move on. It is always better to take the high road and be classy. After all, in the grand scheme of life, does it really matter. I am lucky that I have the perspective age gives you (I am an encore bride in my early 40s). Some things are not worth getting upset over. IMO, this is one of them.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
This is less about the gift and more about the fact that she kind of lied and over-exaggerated her gift in an attempt to fool you on its worth. That is unfortunate! While a gift can be worth anything to anyone (be it $$$ or sentimental value), I think it’s silly for anyone to attempt to artificially inflate that value for no good reason other than to make themselves look better.
But as PPs said, it’s best to just let it go. Get rid of the bag if it makes you feel better!
Post # 15
iarebridezilla: Thanks, if I mention that “my S/O cheated on me” and “let me see your Mossy” will I get my bee points back?
Again… if you can’t rant/vent on here.. where can you go?