Post # 1
Just wondering what the etiquette is for bridal shower gift card amounts. The shower is for a friend of mine whose wedding I am in as a bridesmaid. She will also be a bridesmaid for my wedding next year. She does not know she’ll be having a bridal shower, so she and her fiance have not registered at any stores. I was thinking of a gift card for somewhere like Bed Bath & Beyond so that they can go pick out what they’ll use. But given my role in her wedding and hers in mine, what would be an appropriate amount to give? I don’t want to go way over or under what’s expected!
Post # 3
I don’t understand. She may not be having a shower and you want to know how much you should spend on a shower gift? Is that correct? If someone doesn’t have a shower, I don’t think you need to get them a shower gift.
Post # 4
I don’t think there’s a set amount. I usually give what I can afford taking into account how close we are. For people we aren’t that close to, I give $25. People were close to I usually give $50 or more. At my shower, I received a gift card for $25 and a gift card for $75. I appreciated both.
Post # 5
Hmm what we usually do is chip in and buy a bigger gift from all the BMs to the bride. like for instance, for my cousins shower we all pitched in to buy His and Hers luggage for their honeymoon and are throwing some cute stuff in there for them such as bikini for her, a floppy hat, swimsuit coverup, personalized hanger.. For him swim trunks, flip flops, towel.. theres 6 BMs and were each spending $100 on the gift.
Post # 6
No, she definitely is having a shower – she just doesn’t know it. And since it’s a surprise she hasn’t registered anywhere.
Everyone else, thank you for your input! I thought about chipping in with the other BMs on a larger gift, but they’re kind of all over the place and I don’t think they would be reliable in terms of all putting in the amount agreed upon. So I’ll do my own thing for now 🙂
Post # 7
My policy is to always spend no less than $50 on a bridal shower gift and no less than $100 on a wedding gift. Granted, there is absolutely no logic behind this, I just feel this is what I can reasonably afford without breaking the bank or being too cheap. I think spending less than $25 might be a little weird if you aren’t financially strained, but I still can’t imagine being anything but grateful if one of my friends gave me a $15 gift card.
Post # 8
I usually spend $25-30 on a gift, and then about $40 in cash at the wedding for the ones i got to.
Post # 9
For close friends I spend $100 on a shower gift. Since she is in your wedding and you are in hers I would say $50 would be a good minimum amount, more if you want.
Post # 10
I would spend $50 on a shower gift and $100 or more on the wedding present. Then again I hate showers and would probably find a reason not to go or to cheap out on the gift.
Post # 11
Seems like the amount to spend is regional. I would say $25 is fine. You or someone else should tell her to go register or ask where she is registered. After 2 different people asked where I was registered I realized that I should get on that. I registered and then added more stuff over time. I think I did it about 6 months or more in advance.
A friend of mine started theirs as soon as they got engaged lol. Her parents used it for Christmas gifts.
Post # 12
At my shower I received two $25 gift cards to BB&B which is where I’m registered, so I’d say that’s a good amount! 😀 Though I generally spend $30-$50 on shower gifts myself. Honestly, I’m not a fan of gift cards at a shower. I realize it’s hard since she didn’t register anywhere… but opening gifts is generally the main event at showers. Are you sure she wants a shower? I would think if she didn’t register she doesn’t want a gift-focused shower either.
Post # 13
from my shower, most of the Bridesmaid or Best Man and closest friends gave a $50-75 gift.