Post # 1
so my BMs made the cutest invitations for my bridal shower! i got it in the mail yesterday and thought it was adorable and perfect! on the invitation it says where i’m registered at.. my mom comes and says that’s wrong they’re not supposed to say where you’re registered, at bridal showers you give lingerie or beauty products for the bride. something she’d use…
i thought a bridal shower was to give stuff off the registry? stuff for the home and my cousin agreed with me and said yeah you give items for the house and sometimes the smaller stuff on the registry such as a can opener..
am i wrong?? what’s the “right” bridal shower gifts?
Post # 3
There isn’t a “right” thing necessarily, but I’m used to the way you described. There are Lingerie Showers where you get lingerie and “those” types of things where I’m from.
Post # 4
The purpose of a shower is to shower the bride with small household items that she will need to set up house, at least traditionally.
Given that recently shower has been used to describe any # of parties.
Post # 5
Your mom is wrong, but it may be what she remembers from another time. Bridal/wedding showers are typically for housegoods…appliances,dishes,glassware,pots 7 pans,etc. What she’s describing is more of a personal or lingerie shower, which many people do seperately with close girlfriends or at the batchelorette.
It is perfectly acceptable to include the registry information with the shower invitations,but not with the wedding invitations.
Post # 6
A bridal shower can take many forms. A general shower where people buy things for your future home; a lingerie shower;a round the clock shower a wine shower for the couple; a co-ed shower where the gifts are for either one or both of you., etc etc etc . There are as many types of showers as there are brides.
I for one, find it very helpful when the registry is listed on the shower invitation or on an enclosed card.
Post # 7
thanks for clearing things up ladies 🙂 yeah I think maybe that’s how they used to do it? or how my mom’s circle of friends do it?
@ItWasntMe: okay yeah we just ordered our invites and no registry information on there.. although I have seen some invites where they tell people where they registered? i didn’t know that was wrong but we just put our website on our invites with all our info
Post # 8
@julies1949: thanks and I agree it is very helpful to have registry information along with the invite
Post # 9
There is a supposed difference between a ‘bridal’ shower and ‘wedding’ shower, but most people combine them to mean more of a housewares kind of thing. She may be thinking its more of a girly thing they’re having for you, so just explain it a little differently so she understands how much things have changed.