- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
A family member sent bridal shower gifts a month before my bridal shower and my mother is harping on me that I didn’t call immediately when I recieved the gift. (She actually started harping on me prior to me recieving the gift in the mail. She knew someone had sent it, and expected that it had already arrived.. but the mail took a bit longer than she thought) It took me two days to call the gift giver regarding the first package. Now, the second package just arrived two days ago, and I got another nasty gram in my email about how I didn’t call to awknowledge the 2nd package. It’s the same person I just talked to two nights ago! I feel a bit annoyed at the nasty grams from my mom. I was intending to call this weekend when I had a few moments that weren’t so week-day-rushed.
I felt kinda odd thanking someone for a gift meant for the bridal shower before the actual event. What is standard etiquette for gifts received in the mail before the bridal shower? How long is it acceptable to wait to thank them?
Do I owe everyone an immediate email or phone call regarding gifts that come in the mail? How about gifts directly meant for the wedding? Do I have until after the wedding to awknowledge the gift and thank the gift giver? Or do I owe an immediate thank you, and then another after-the-wedding thank you?
I’m very thankful for everyone’s genrous gifts! But I’m also a busy bride with a stressful full time job. Sometimes my job just whipes me out, and I need a few days to gain full energy! If I call to say thank you when I’m tired, the gift giver might think I’m not enthusiastic?! I think that is aweful too.
Also calling every guest regarding their gift-by-mail and writting a thank you note seems a little over the top. Thoughts?