(Closed) BRIDAL SHOWER groom at shower?!

posted 9 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is it weird for the groom to not be involved in the shower at all?

    Yes he should be at the shower

    No it's not weird if he's absent or makes a small debut

    I've seen both ways and don't think it matters

  • Post # 3
    1128 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We had a couples shower and so obviously my hubby was there, and then I just had a baby shower, women only and hubby came.

    Post # 4
    6734 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    The only bridal showers I’ve ever been to have been the same – all girls, brunch/lunch, silly bridal shower games, opening of the gifts – and then the Fiance shows up at the end to say hi to everyone and thank everyone and help take the gifts home.  Perhaps that will be a nice compromise? 

    Maybe your Fiance can have some kind of guy’s golfing outting that morning or something and then he and some male relatives can show up at the end for their small appearance and to help with all the gifts?

    Post # 6
    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    No one’s expecting the groom to be there! Unless you have a couples’ shower – is that what you’re doing? Are men invited? If it’s just women, he can come help clean up after the majority of your guests are gone. Otherwise it’s weird – it’s a ladies’ event.

    Post # 8
    47407 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I prefer it’s just the girls unless it is a couples shower. I have yet to meet a man who would want to be the only man in a room full of women opening sheets, towels, toasters etc.

    Post # 10
    679 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    My husband was at our shower and both baby showers for the entire time.  That’s how it’s done her though.  90% of the wedding showers I have attended included the groom in attendance for the whole shower.  Which is probably why we refer to them as wedding showers, not bridal showers.

    Post # 11
    679 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

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    @hisprettygirl:  I disagree.  Where I’m from, we do expect the groom to be there for the entire party.

    Post # 12
    7605 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    In my area, it’s common for the groom to make a guest appearance.  He shows up after the presents have been opened, brings flowers, and takes off into the basement or wherever else her dad and brothers are hiding, haha.

    Post # 13
    3567 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I personally like the female bonding thing of the shower. I say its fine to not have him there. I also been to showers where the groom shows up at the end for some food and to pack the gifts, that might be a nice comprimise. If you prefer it a female thing there nothing wrong with having a all female shower and most people don’t expect the groom there unless it is a couples shower.

    Post # 14
    1479 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think it’s nice if he can come help you load the gifts in the car at the end, because you’ll be most likely exhausted at the end of your shower, but he should plan to arrive after the majority of guests are gone. I just think it’s awkward to have the groom show up. My Mother-In-Law wanted to have my husband do this at my bridal shower- she literally said that I should “Giggle and act appropriately modest” (as though, “Tee heee heee… I’m the modest virgin bride who doesn’t currently live with the man I’m going to marry, isn’t this embarassing that he’s going to see these towels that we’ll use after we’re married?”). The whole idea was just a bit ridiculous to me, but apparently that’s what they all did “back in the day” when she got married.

    I think the notion is a bit old-fashioned, and depending on where you’re from, it’s more common. And it can really be a very sweet idea… but if your Fiance really doesn’t care to be there, and you’re leaning towards it being a gal’s day, I would just have him show up to assist you with those heavy gifts! ๐Ÿ™‚

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