Bridal Shower Guest List

posted 6 months ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

mariaeliza6365 :  I would invite my stepmom and stepsister. Since you don’t get along that great with your stepfamily, I’m not sure who you envision hosting a shower just for them. In any case, it’s not appropriate for you to ask for or suggest that anyone throw you a shower. Regarding the stepaunts and cousins, are you close enough that they will be eager to give you an extra present and spend extra time oohing and ahhing over you, or are they more likely to see it as an obligation? I would probably skip inviting them unless you were close, which you say you aren’t.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

mariaeliza6365 :  For the sake of keeping the family peace, I would invite the stepsister and stepmom.

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Invite stepmom and stepsister. Ask your stepmom if she would like the aunts and cousins invited but if she does not think they MUST be invited, skip them.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I did not invite my step family. It would have just been awkward for everybody.

Post # 7
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Honey bee

The host of the party should be the one determining if that is too many people.  Generally speaking, they are the ones to set the parameters of how many people they can afford to host.  There have been numerous posts from people offering showers who end up in over their heads because they have a “host a dozen people in my rec room with party trays and punch” budget they never communicated and the bride comes back with with a list of 50 people and expectations of a fully hosted restaurant luncheon.  So clarify first exactly what it is your sister is offering to host and where.

Generally, showers are for your nearest and dearest.  I would not classify “see twice a year” people in this category unless that is just by circumstance and you supplement that with lots of phone calls and emails between visits.  

It would be inappropriate to ask if the step-family wants to throw you a separate shower.  Showers are a gift offered to you by someone willing to host, not something asked or dictated by you as the person of honor.  At most, confer with your dad if he believes your step-mom and step-sister would be offended to not be invited.  But I’m going to guess they will be.  If you are actually on better terms with your step-sister I would invite her.  And assuming step-mom has been in your life for a number of years and they didn’t get get together within the last couple of years, then I would invite her, too.  You may get lucky and maybe she’ll decline (an invitation isn’t a subpoena – it doesn’t guarantee she’ll come and is free to decline).

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2021 - British Columbia, Canada

Invite whomever you want to be there – don’t let other peoples’ expectations of a day that is literally all about you overshadow your wishes and comfort. If the steps would make it awkward for your mother (and you by proxy) or just generally not be missed if they did not attend, you have your answer.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - Saint Louis, MO

I would suggest to invite the step family and I don’t think 42 is too many people at all. 

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