(Closed) Bridal shower guests…. Feeling kind of lame!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I didn’t even have a bridal shower.  just enjoy the ones who come!

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

mrsDJD5115:  Don’t feel lame, I don’t think I would even have 30 people to invite. On top of that, I don’t even have anyone to throw a shower!

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I’ll probably have 5 people at my shower, I live far from everyone except my parents.  Haha, do not feel lame!! Have a great shower and be excited- this is a fun time!!!

Post # 19
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Newbee

mrsDJD5115:  Don’t feel lame! I think 16 is a great number of guests for a shower. It’ll be a blast, and you’ll be able to spend quality time with everyone there! I had about 22 at my shower, and if there had been many more than that, it would have been challenging to spend enough time talking with each guest.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

mrsDJD5115:  i wouldn’t put too much thought into it. (i think) there is a possibility that people don’t really like showers. (a lot of people in my circle HATE them and almost NEVER go to them) i have heard people say that if they are going to the wedding and giving a sizable wedding gift, they don’t feel that they should attend the shower and purchase a second gift. 

there is a good chance that it’s not that people don’t LIKE you per se, but they either have a previous engagement, don’t have finances for 2 gifts, or just down right hate showers (they can be kind of boring if you’re not a central character ie: bride, Maid/Matron of Honor, MOB, sister of the bride..etc) but will be happy to celebrate with you at your wedding. 

don’t fret, just enjoy those that do come to your shower and shower your with love! 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My mom, Future Mother-In-Law and Maid/Matron of Honor are inviting over 60 people to my shower and I’d honestly be waaayyyy happier with 16 guests! You should feel lucky girl, it’s no reflection on the love and support people have for you.

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I had a large bridal shower (55 people) but my baby shower was very small. Only 10 adults, 7 kids. Don’t stress! It will be a nice, intimate event. I actually enjoyed my baby shower more because I interacted with everyone and it was much more personal and low key. Your shower will be a great day no matter how many guests show up 🙂 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee

Don’t feel lame! Just enjoy the people who show up and celebrate! I’m not a fan of huge parties anyway, it’s so hard to feel like you’ve spent any quality time with people when there are SO MANY people all vying for your attention. Quality > Quantity

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

mrsDJD5115:  I had two showers, one put on for my side of the family and friends, and then one for DH’s side of the family and family/friends.

For the one for my side, 30 were invited and only 12 came to that. I had more involvement in who said yes or no. My sister wanted me to be aware. I did make me sad that more didn’t come, but it was still a good time.

The other shower, I think most guests invited came… but I am not sure. The invite list was started by DH’s aunts and his mom, so they decided what family and family friends made the list.

Post # 26
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Blushing bee

Don’t beat yourself up about it. The less people the more intimate it will be. My mom sent out close to 40 invites and so far about 25 RSVP’d. Trust me you don’t want a whole bunch of people. I went to a shower that had 100+ ladies and it was not fun because there was so many people we didn’t play any games and it was so boring watching her open all the gifts I think half way through no one was paying attention. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee

I only had 12 at my bridal shower. 2 didn’t show….but my wedding only had 38 guests. It was perfect for me

Post # 28
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Busy bee

When it comes to bridal showers, smaller is definitely better.  The feeling is much more intimate, which is more appropriate for a bridal shower.  Also, no guest wants to sit through more than 30-45mins of you opening presents, it just gets boring and obnoxious.  Assume 1 min per gift, that’s an optimal max of no more than 30-45 people.

Post # 29
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

LOL. I felt lame because there’s only 15 that are being invited to mine. ***There’s about 5 more “out of respect” invites of out of town ladies who will not be attending. 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think 45 were invited, and so far we’ve had about 25 RSVP yes.  My own bridesmaid said no!  So don’t feel bad.

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