Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor has been planning a bridal shower for me. We were going to invite all the women invited to the wedding. However, out of the blue, Future Mother-In-Law says she is throwing a co-ed wedding shower for me, date undecided, inviting all their close friends from church.
Since I don’t know exactly who Future Mother-In-Law would invite (should this wedding shower even occur), is it okay to keep on inviting all the women from both sides to my for-sure-happening bridal shower? I think so, but I keep second-guessing myself! I don’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable.
Post # 3
If I wasn’t close to the bride, I wouldn’t want an invite to two showers.
I’m also in the camp that doesn’t think it’s necessary to invite every female that’s invited to the wedding to a shower. A shower is a more intimate time to celebrate with your female friends – IMO.
If I were in your shoes, I’d separate the guest list out a little and make the Maid/Matron of Honor shower more about your friends/family and have FMIL’s more of her friends/family. You could have some cross over of course (with close friends and family) but I wouldn’t invite FMIL’s guest list to the Maid/Matron of Honor one (if you aren’t close, etc)
Post # 4
The problem is Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t even know who she would invite. There is no guest list, just an idea of, “Oh! I want to throw this party!” Future Mother-In-Law is the pastor’s wife, so “close friends from church” is a lot of people.
My options are (I think), continue as planned, or don’t invite anyone from church. (If I only invited people I was close to at church, word would undoubtedly spread, and people’s feelings would be hurt. I’m marrying the pastor’s son – I have to invite everyone or no one.)
I really don’t want to go with the latter, because a lot of the people from church are my friends, too. I just don’t want anyone to feel awkward with two invitations.
Post # 5
Carry on as already planned. If people don’t want to come to a second shower, they won’t come to a second shower.
Post # 6
Thanks a bunch – I thought I was just being silly over nothing!