(Closed) Bridal shower help!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

WOW! That’s a lot to expect of someone, even if it is your bridal party. I say speak with her about what IS feasible for you and leave it at that. If it’s not sufficient enough, tough poo… she should have asked first.

Post # 4
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2542 posts
Sugar bee

Just flat out tell them that you are not in a financial position to contribute that much. Having to chip in $700-$800 for a shower is INSANE. Set an amount for yourself that you can contribute and tell them it is all you’ll be able to give. 

Post # 4
Member
2542 posts
Sugar bee

Just flat out tell them that you are not in a financial position to contribute that much. Having to chip in $700-$800 for a shower is INSANE. Set an amount for yourself that you can contribute and tell them it is all you’ll be able to give. 

Post # 5
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1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That is totally insane.  She is basically hosting a mini-wedding for her shower. You only have two options: put your foot down and tell them that you will only contribute X amount of money or just suck it up and pay the amount requested.

Personally, I would complain to my mother and have her pressure my brother.  Nothing worse than having a difficult Future Mother-In-Law to deal with.

Post # 6
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46372 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

That is completely ridiculous! Do you have email addresses for the members of the bridal party? I would send an email stating that I would not be able to participate in this grand of a shower, then communicate with the bride. I would suggest that we look into saling down the shower to host a group of the bride’s friends . She can get other people to host showers for the relatives, work colleagues etc – whoever these people are.

 

Post # 8
Member
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree that you should just TELL the maid of honour how much you’re planning to contribute.  You don’t get to plan parties on other people’s dime without getting their input.

Also, I think I would be totally put off if I ended up at a bridal shower with 150 people.  I don’t think I even know 150 people, nevermind if it was women only!  Seems like somebody has a major case of the gift grabbies.

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