(Closed) Bridal shower help

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Your bridal party or friends should plan your shower and/or bachelorette party.  You should not be throwing pre-wedding parties in your honor, that is against etiquette.

If these events are happening at home rather than in the Dominican, remember that you cannot invite anyone who is not invited to the Destination Wedding.

Post # 4
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1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I ALMOST did the same thing. At first, we could not invite many friends, but we rearranged the budget to fit more in. We thought to have an engagement party to celebrate with friends and such but yes, it is against ettiquite to throw a party like that in your own honor. I found that out here on the bee. My advice is to call it something other than a bachlorette, bridal shower, or engagement party. I totally get you want to celebrate with your friends so I would just invite them over for a cocktail party. We are just gonna have a dinner party. A celebration after the wedding with more friends than family. To me, anything before the wedding seems all gift grabby. So just label it differently and it should be fine! You could also just do a brunch. It could maybe have a theme, those are fun!

Post # 6
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wait, your FI’s family wants you to throw them a separate party?  That’s absurd.  Explain to them that because of etiquette you cannot throw yourselves any pre-wedding parties.  That puts the onus on them.  Not to judge them or their finances, but the Dominican isn’t exactly China.  You can get there pretty easily.  Bride and groom shouldn’t be expected to pay for guest transport. 

On second thought, have your Fiance tell them its against etiquette.  They’re his family after all, he should deal with them.

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