Post # 1
I’m Maid/Matron of Honor for my friends upcoming wedding and we as a bridal party are starting to plan our Bride’s shower! So far all we know is that the shower is going to be in San Diego. We have a LONG time to plan (like, four months) but we’re all so panicked about it that we’ve started attempting to throw some ideas together. A bachelorette party we can handle, a bridal shower? Not so sure. Here are the main concerns:
– The bride and the majority of the guests are YOUNG (21-23) but there will be a handful of older women (MOTB, Future Mother-In-Law, two grandmothers) attending. How can we make this shower fun for both age groups?!
– Being as young as we are we’re all definitely strapped for cash, to the point that I think we’re priced out of using a venue for the party. As we all live in small apartments or at home, we’re thinking of having it at my parent’s house in their lovely backyard. Is this weird?? It feels a little off to me, especially because there are just four of us BM’s who know eachother and everyone else will be spending time together for the first time.
– Her BM’s all love the idea of hiring a bartender to come to the party and teach us how to make two or three cockatails (shouldnt every young wife know how to mix the perfect martini and cosmopolitan?), but I’m worried something like this may not appeal to the older women attending, ESPECIALLY since they seem more than a little uninterested in this wedding to begin with.
It’s entirely possible that I’m in a tizzy over nothing, but this is going to be the FIRST wedding event taking place and I feel like there’s pressure on us as her BMs to set the tone and make sure this first event with both our Bride’s and Groom’s families goes well!
Post # 3
I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor for my best friends wedding and I am in the midst of planning her bridal shower. As the brides best friends you want to represent her in a way that would not embarress her in front of her family and Mom/future Mother in Law.
it’s totally fine to host the Bridal Shower at someone’s home. I’ve been to several that have been hosted in a home or in the backyard. In terms of the Bridal Shower … try to start off by picking a theme. That pretty much nails down the decorations and catering. Pick out 2-3 popular bridal shower games (don’t forget prizes!) and then set aside a great deal of time for the bride to open presents in front of everyone. The point of the bridal shower is to shower the bride with gifts and words of congratulations. The whole bartender idea should be saved for the Bachellorette Party which will consist only of the brides closest and bestest friends (ie: no parentals or older generation type folks).That’s the time when you can do some of the wilder…crazier…young people things.
Just remember to keep things classy and well organized. The only alcohol you should have at the shower is Champagne for a toast or words of encouragement or wods of Thanks from the bridal part to all the guests for attending.You could also have wine out as an option with the other juices/sodas/lemonades.
Another thing you might want to add is a scrapbooking table where people can take photo’s of themselves with the bride and print out photos (on a photo printer if you have one…or using a Polaroid camera if you have one) and then creating a page for the scrap book. Have lots of paper, scissors, stickers, and markers out for guests to write encouraging messages and words of wisdom.
Hope that helps!
Post # 4
I think that bridal showers at someone’s home are intimate and perfect!
To go along with the scrapbooking table, which has worked great at showers I’ve attended, you can also have your guests do a wedding count down for the month leading up to the wedding. Each guest writes a note (or a few depending on how many) that gives the bride something to read in the month leading up to her wedding. Because the notes are private they can range from best wishes from older guests or something more scandalous from younger guests.
You can make food part of the theme for the shower too. Maybe a dessert shower? Or Mexican theme with lots of salsa and "budget friendly" options? You can have a signature drink that goes with the theme in addition to or instead of champagne.
I think there are lots of ways you can make the shower great for all generations and especially the bride. You obviously care a lot to put this much thought, and time, into planning.
Post # 5
Well sometimes you have to do what you can. I am having my shower at my mom’s because it was going to be too expensive to have it somewhere with the amount of people invited. We are doing it on a Saturday at 5:30 for dinner and drinks. I wanted later with ohdouvers and drinks but, this was the cheaper option. I do not mind I would rather do it this way then have my girls in the hole over a shower.
Post # 6
I LOVE the scrapbooking idea! You ladies are so awesome for your advice, I feel a lot better about this now. I’ll definitely be using the scrapbooking idea and the notes that countdown the days to the wedding!