Bridal Shower HELP

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

It’s not really done in my circle. If one doesn’t register for gifts, it’s usually assumed the couple would prefer money or gift cards. I think it’s a little rude to flat out ask for money, but I wouldn’t be butt hurt over it. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I think it’s a bit tacky but it does make it easier if you don’t know what to get.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Unless there was a reason behind it (like the couple was from across the country or they were relocating soon), I would wonder why they were having a shower in the first place. I wouldn’t go (or send a gift). It’s just not something done here.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper

It’s as rude as hell. Only the poverty stricken are excused for begging for money. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I just had my shower like 10 days ago. We arw not registerex anywhere and live in a tiny 1 bedrm apt. We dont have space for stuff. Our kitchen i tiiiiny wirh barely  any cupboard or counter space. So the hosts of my shower (FSIL/co-MOH and FMIL) asked me what i want.. and I said Ikea giftcards or costco gift cards (cause Ikea gift cards are not as widely available as Costco one at diferent retailers) the reason for those is cause Ikea is our fave store for household stuff and furniture and we are planning to move to a bigger place in 12-18 months so we can use them then… and Costco well what dont they have lol? We can always use those gift cards! For the record I got like 5 Costco gift cards, Not a single one for Ikea… and some cash? Ok.. and 2 physical gifts, one was a set of 8 generic bowls and the other a big set of tuperware, I threw out the old one we had and replaced it. The bowls dont take too much space. So all in all Im satisfied with my gifts. I got enough Costco cards and cash to pay for my bulk flower order from Costco! Yay! So that’s what we decided to use them on! 😄 At the shower people showed up with cards and gift cards/cash inside. 🙂 the shower was also a 6 hr bus rife away from my home so it was all easy to transport back home.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I don’t care for it for a shower invite but have seen it in wedding websites. I saw one where the couple had recently started building their house and mentioned wanting gift cards to The Home Depot. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I don’t mind the gift card part, but the “monetary gifts” rubs me the wrong way. I’m sure some might see them as the same, but I don’t (more so when combined with a registry). 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I guess I’m not sure why you’d even have a shower if you weren’t registered for anything. Isn’t the whole point of one to “shower” the bride with gifts?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m so sick of this discussion on this board. Mostly white women being offended that people are going against etiquette…something that white women created. It’s not tacky and it’s not rude if it’s CULTURAL. I think a shitload of things that white people do is tacky and rude but do you. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I wouldn’t be offended but I do think it’s pretty unnecessary to explicitly ask for money. If I was attending a gift giving event and there was no registry I would be gifting a monetary gift, no need to ask for it. 

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