(Closed) Bridal Shower Help

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 4
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Are there any details that everyone agrees on?

I’m not fully in the loop on how much showers cost.  Mine had mailed invites, two or three balloons, a few bottles of wine, some pop, and some home made appys…. so maybe $80, tops?  There was about a dozen people, wine costs more in Canada. 

Can you pick a location/house to host it at?

Can you assign something that’s not terribly expensive, but doable to people?  ie – Invites and collecting addresses?  You could also do eInvites.

Is it possible to ask the bride how she feels this can happen?  Or, a little less bluntly, what is the worst case scenario if it’s just not possible to be able to get all of the details? 



….I hate it when people are overbearing!

Good luck!

Post # 5
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

this sounds like a very tricky situation. it looks like ou will be the middle man in all conversations. 

Perhaps ou can start by discussing with the bride her expectations? or what she invisions at her bridal shower? also to speak with the moms, about a realistic budget and their expectations. then fill in the other bm’s in with what was discussed and what the plans are.


Post # 7
27 posts
  • Wedding: June 1993

Coordination with the bride has to be made, of course, but that is usually about date/time and a suggested guest list.  Other than that, the person(s) hosting the shower are doing so as a gift to the bride. At that point, the bride’s “job” is to show up, look pretty, and smile, I always say … meaning leave the planning and details to the hostess(es). That way, they can plan a celebration that is within their budget, using their own creativity to “shower” the bride with love and in celebration … because that is what a shower is, correct?

Post # 8
184 posts
Blushing bee

Don’t know about other places, but in the south, when one agrees to give a shower or tea, we (the bride and MOB) simply say a very gracious and heartfelt THANK YOU, help them select a date, and provide a nice thank you note with a nice hostess gift.    

Wow….have never encounted the demanding bride/MOB before.  

Bless your heart!

I might remind the MOB/bride of the amount of funds you are contending with….invitation cost, postage cost, food, decor, etc….. maybe if they are ignorant enough to be so demanding at the gift of a shower, they are also ignorant of the cost of doing one also! I don’t know.

Wish I could be of more help!

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