- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2015 - Bethesda Academy Whitefield Chapel & Brockington Hall
A few of my co-workers came to me today and said that they are planning to throw me a bridal shower! YAY! Its very sweet and I am thrilled that they want to do this for me. They asked me for a list of people to invite to the shower. Here’s where the rub comes in — I am not inviting all the co-workers I am friends with to my wedding. We are having a destination wedding, and it is an expensive trip, so I was very up front with people that I cared about from the get-go that I couldn’t invite them. Everyone was gracious and understanding about the situation.
I know that formal rules dictate that you not invite someone to a shower who isn’t invited to the wedding. But, in the past I have been invited to a few work-thrown showers were I was not invited to the wedding, and I attended (and I brought a gift). When we were planning our wedding, I was very upfront with people about the situation with our guest list, do you think it would be best for me to approach those same people first and say, “hey, these ladies are throwing a shower, do you want to come and be a part of the party, please don’t bring a gift, but if you would like to come and enjoy the fun I would love for you to experience it with me?”
Or, should I just stick to the traditional rule of wedding invitees as shower guests only?
Any input is welcome! Thanks!! 🙂