(Closed) Bridal shower, hostess gift?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1784 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

bananchik:  My situation is probably different but just as a point of reference I’ll share. My best friend (MOH) and her mom are co-hosting. My Maid/Matron of Honor lives in Texas now and we are in New York so she has to buy 3 separate tickets just for my wedding for the bridal shower, bachelorette, and wedding. I feel awful about that and so I bought her a beautiful Swarovski necklace. I am getting my best friend’s mom a nice bottle of wine. I just wanted them to know that the effort and expense is greatly appreciated.


ETA: A gift is always nice – it doesn’t need to be elaborate but you should do it because you genuinely appreciate them doing this for you.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by  springbride23.
Post # 3
2943 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


bananchik:  My bridesmaids who threw me shower #1 each got Spa gift cards.  My FMILs who are throwing shower #2 will get bottles of wine from the winery where we are having out wedding. 

Post # 4
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

bananchik:  Yes, I think it is proper etiquette to give the shower host(s) a gift. One of my showers was thrown by one of my moms friend, but I still gave her a gift. I was told that a heartfelt note was the most important part of the gift….after all, they went to a lot of work to put this together for you.

For my shower hostess gifts, i went to bath and body works and got a few lotions/perfumes/bath washs (like a set or something), threw in some candles, and then included a really nice sweet note. The idea is just supposed to be that you really appreciate what they have done for you. It doesn’t have to be anything huge.

Post # 5
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yes, you should give them a gift. Something lovely but generic, like an orchid or nice candle.

Post # 6
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

RoundtreeBee:  I agree here-think housewarming. Flowers in a vase, a candle, or a bottle of wine. Then of course send a thank you note after the fact. My Maid/Matron of Honor hosted with her moms help at her parents’ home. We brought a bottle of wine for the mom and I sent thank you notes to each of them for the shower and their shower gifts.

Post # 8
4891 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

How long after the shower do you present these gifts, or do you give it to them at the shower?

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