(Closed) Bridal Shower Hostesses

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Future Mother-In-Law probably considers her cash gift her contribution to the shower.  Maybe there is something else that is bothering her that you don’t know about.  Did she volunteer to host the shower, or was she asked?

 

I say write her a very thoughtful thank you card for her gift and leave it at that.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Maybe she is truly bothered, or maybe she is simply clueless. That is the way my IL are.

 

My IN were supposed to host the rehearsal dinner, I even asked them to come an hour in advance of the guests to set up.  They showed up after our guests did, so my parents were forced to setup and do the work to run it.  They DID stay to clean up, though.   IL were not very enthused about planning or making preparations for it in advance either – if my parents offered to do something, they let my parents do it, rather than insisting on doing it themselves.  I was annoyed because my parents were putting forth so much effort, time and expense towards the wedding, and this one area where IL could have risen to the occasion was disappointing from them.

 

However, the event was beautiful and overall, we all enjoyed it.  My mother told me that ILs probably meant no harm, and are just truly clueless. Some people just have no social graces.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

It seems you are already WAY too involved in your shower. 

You should not be involved in anything to do with the organization or paying, so I would thank people as they all did the same.

It seems like Mother-In-Law wasn’t necessarily on board with hosting, as mothers typically are not shower hosts, so she may have been very uncomfortable. 

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