- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2008
I’ve only one month into wedding planning and have a friendly dilemma. First, I must acknowledge that I am incredibly lucky to have such wonderful friends. However, this has also created a bit of a quandry as I have three people who’ve offered to organize a bridal shower for me for late this summer.
Host #1: Good friend from grad school, lives 400 away. Very organized, loves to plan events, is very resourceful and has called every week to check in on how I’m doing and provide suggestions. Has two children under four years of age.
Host #2: Best friend from childhood who lives 350 miles away. Slated to be matron of honor depending on travel restrictions. She’s pregnant and may miss the wedding if her husband and doctor don’t allow her to drive here because she’ll be three weeks away from her due date by the time of the wedding. She’s incredibly caring and very much wants to help, but she’s not that organized, income-challenged, and has a one-year-old.
Host #3: Good friend from high school located on the opposite coast. She very organized, more traditional, and not extravagant. She will be my bridesmaid and backup if host #2 can’t make it. I’m counting on her to keep me on track throughout the wedding.
As you can see, none of them live near me. I think having three people organize is too many chiefs. So how do I help narrow down who to give the reponsibility to? I don’t want to hurt anyone feelings. (Maybe they’ll be secretly relieved?) I assume I’ll also have to ask someone local to help coordinate a place for the shower.