Post # 1
So this has nothing to do with me. My shower (total surprise) was yesterday and it was beautiful. This is about an invitation to a shower I received.
The invite says “registered at xyz store” We will also be having a Money/Gift Card Tree.
Does that mean we have to buy a gift AND give them money? Or just one or the other? I’m not familiar with the money/gift card tree thing. I’m used to just bringing a card with cash in it if I elect to give cash.
I think even mentioning money gifts is a bit gauche, if people want to give you money they will, but if we go (I haven’t decided if I am or not yet..) I don’t want to look like an idiot for only bringing a gift off her registry and not hoisting over even more cash. Or just bringing cash and getting the hairy eyeball for not bringing something wrapped.
Post # 3
If you are bringing a gift then I think the money tree is optional
The money tree just sounds tacky…….
Post # 4
@irishphoenix: you choose one or the other. I HOPE! Suggesting that a guest should provide 2 gifts takes a lot of balls.
Post # 5
Yet another reason to not put something so rude on an invitation. Now it is rude and confusing.
I would give a gift as that is the whole point of a shower to shower the bride in gifts.
I would not participate in the money tree, unless it was ready for harvest ;).
Post # 6
I’ve never heard of it before. I mean I got more cards than gifts to open at my shower anyway, but no one mentioned anything about gifts outright. People asked where we were registered and the host told them. Generally the people that want to bring cash, will bring cash, and those that don’t..bring a gift. It was kind of awkward opening cards anyway. Gifts you can at least show all the people staring at you. You can’t very well pull the 100 dollar bill from Nana out of the card and flash it to your nearest and dearest.
I hope her mother let’s her know not to take out the cash when she opens the cards. I’ve seen that happen too. Ugh. “Aunty Hildy gave $50” *awkward uncomfortable clapping*