(Closed) Bridal Shower Invitation??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1390 posts
Bumble bee

@mags2233:  Not unless it’s a co-ed shower and he’s going to be there along with other boys. The idea of a bridal shower is to ‘shower the bride’ with gifts so she can set up the new couple’s home. He doesn’t go on the invite unless he’s going to be present.

Post # 5
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I was invited to a shower for my friend’s destination wedding.  The shower invite said something along the lines of “please join us at a party honoring Bride and Groom..”  I was totally confused as to the type of party.  I actually thought it was a co-ed party to celebrate their upcoming marriage.  I got there and then realized it was a shower.  So, I think its best to stick to clear wording.  It is your shower so I would say just you be named.  Unless, like PP said it’s a coed shower.

Post # 6
1390 posts
Bumble bee

@mags2233:  Nooooo. Not only does he not have to be there, they usually are not. If you want to have him involved, then you generally go with a couples shower. These are parties that are generally more laid back and involve drinks, food, and people bringing presents. They are fun, but they aren’t a traditional shower. No games, usually in the evening, etc.

If you’re having a traditional shower (mid-day, ladies-only invite, etc.) then you don’t need to bring him. It actually might be a little awkward if he was there. Fiance came to my shower at the end to enjoy some cake and help haul the presents home. I guess there isn’t a rule that he can’t be there but it I’ve never been to one with the groom present. Usually there are funny little games (thankfully not at mine) and it’s kind of like girl hour. It would probably have been uncomfortable for Fiance to have been there the whole time. Plus he would have gotten bored. Men don’t usually care about how soft a towel is or a new cupcake stand. 🙂

So, what time/kind of shower are you having?

Post # 7
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Based on what I’ve experienced – You get to sit in the big wicker chair and open all the presents and your man shows up at the end to say “hello ladies!” and carry boxes. Your name only on the inivitations.

Post # 9
1390 posts
Bumble bee

@mags2233:  Seriously, let him stay home. You will open gifts and then ladies will want you to pass them around. I literally passed around a wash cloth last Saturday. A WASH CLOTH. I told Fiance about it tonight…and about traditional shower games and such and he looked at me like a deer in the headlights. He already knew it was over and he wouldn’t have to go, it still scared him. LOL!

Post # 10
5660 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

If its a ladies only party he should not come and his name should not be on the invitation. That would only be the case if it was a coed shower/”jack and Jill”

Post # 11
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

All of the invitations I’ve ever seen say “A shower for _____, the bride-elect of ______” so people from his side know who you are and why they’re getting this invitation. That may be a bit fancy, but that’s how I’ve seen a LOT of them done.

Post # 12
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Mine only has me listed on it but it dose say to honor the future Mrs ________. Mybe you can do something think that so he doesn’t feel left out 100%.

Post # 14
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Personally, I’d say “Please join us for a shower for Bride’s First and Last Name, the future wife of Groom’s First and Last Name.”

Post # 16
1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

OP I’m happy you posted this! I’m having a connundrum with finding a way to make sure FI’s cousins know me by name. They know who I am when the see me at family functions, but not all of them remember my name so well. 

I have to say “Bride-elect” sounds too old fashioned for me. I like the idea of having an invite worded like this:

Please join us for a 

bridal shower to honor

Bride’s name

the future Mrs.

Groom’s name


I’m not sure if my shower’s hostess will put this on the invite, but I’m going to ask if it’s ok. I just feel awkward sending out invites to people his family say needs them when I’m worried they will have no idea of who I am by name.

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