Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2016 - Simsbury 1820 House
I’m getting married in September. My bridal shower is set for Aug. 6. (That’s what I was told.) My mom and BMs were asking when do they send out the shower invitations. My invitations are going out in July (or so most etiquette seems to say.) Is it ok to send them both in the same couple of weeks? Should the shower invites go out first? STDs are already out.
Post # 2
Since the shower is first, I think it makes sense for those to go out first but its not a big deal if the invites go out at the same time.
BUT since the shower is in Aug, I would send them out at the end of may or June at the latest just because people’s summer weekends tend to get booked in advance.
Post # 3
That’s what happened with mine. My first shower was at the end of August, so my sister (MOH) sent them out the first week. Our wedding invitations were mailed by August 9, so those invited to this shower (my side and friends) received both within a few days of one another.
I think that the wedding should go first so that they get them before the shower.
Usually, you’d want to do the shower invites a month before, or 3 weeks before. My sister had sent out a heads up email to those invited (it was also the same day as my bachelorette party) 3 months prior, as it fell on Labor Day weekend.
Post # 4
Honestly, I really don’t think it matters which is received first. I know that my shower invites were recieved before my wedding invites because I had my shower about 3 months before my wedding and my wedding invites didn’t go out until 8 weeks before my wedding date. As long as everyone invited to the shower is invited to the wedding then I would just tell your Mom and BMs to send the shower invites whenever they think is best.
Post # 5
SomethingBlue1009: I believe I sent my sister’s bridal shower invites in June for her shower in August (the day before her wedding). I’m not sure if this is the proper etiquette. I was studying for the July bar that year and wanted to knock them out as quickly as possible so I wouldn’t have to worry about them when my exam got closer. I believe she sent her invites out in July.