Post # 1
I was asked for a guestlist for a bridal shower and I’m a little stumped. Half my guests live in the area, the other are a 9 hour drive away and will very very likely not come to the event (my mother and sister are included in the “far away” group). Do I have an invitation sent to all the women in my family and on the guest list even if I know they won’t come? I don’t want anyone to feel guilty that they can’t make it and they are all already traveling to my wedding next month. :/ Bees -what would you do?
Post # 3
Just make sure noone is insulted they weren’t invited. I think it’s better to give them the option (even if you can predict how they will RSVP) and let them tell you they can’t make it than to let someone be disappointed to learn they weren’t invited.
Post # 4
I had the same issue as I have family in New Husband (I live in CA). In the end, we invited them because we didn’t want them to feel left out. But, sent an email shortly after explaining that so they understood we didn’t expect them to come. I think your mom and sister would be sad if they didn’t get an invite even if they can’t make it.
Post # 5
@Sonatine: My family is pretty relaxed about the whole shower business – I don’t think anyone has had one in the last 30 years – but you’re right, someone might get offended.
@ecjohnson: Good idea about the email! I think I will try something similar and spread the word that it is totally ok not to come.
Post # 6
I invited people that I knew wouldn’t come, only because I knew they’d complain later that they didn’t get an invite. (ridiculous, I know!) But also because they’ll know wher we’re registered if they want to send gifts!!