Post # 1
I got an invitation in the mail today for a bridal shower, but there’s no RSVP info. Just the names of the hosts, who I don’t know.
I don’t want to mention anything to the bride in case it’s a surprise (the last bridal shower I went to was a surprise but nothing on the invite; glad I had the sense not to say anything to the bride!).
Is it possible that they aren’t expecting an RSVP? I feel like I should RSVP but I don’t know how to get in touch with the host. Any suggestions? And is this typical?
Post # 2
That’s bizarre! Maybe they aren’t expecting an RSVP since its just a shower but it would be good to know who to contact in case of anything. Most general invites include a ph. number of some sort.
Do you know any of her family or other friends? It might also be a no-no but if there isn’t anyone else to ask maybe see if the fiance has a clue of who you should talk to?
Post # 3
Maybe you could try and find those people through facebook? I’m assuming if the bride has an account, the hosts might be on her friends list.
Post # 4
Traditionally, RSVP’s weren’t a thing, you were supposed to write a handwritten note accepting or declining. One of my friends has a super traditional southern Mother-In-Law. When I got my invite for the engagment party there was so RSVP info. I send her a handwritten note letting her know I would be attending, and mailed it back to the address on the envelope. However, I do realize that most people probably aren’t aware of that tradition, so in your case it is probably an oversight (or no RSVP is necessary).
Post # 5
lol no return address either? Sounds like an innocent but airhead move hee hee
Post # 6
If you don’t want to ask the bride directly, you could talk to another close friend or family member who might know how or if you need to RSVP.
Post # 7
Maybe they don’t need an RSVP. I have a large family and there is always more than enough food, drinks and seats at showers and other gatherings. If you are truly concerned, you could talk to a member of the wedding party and see if they know if an RSVP is expected.
Post # 8
Is there a wedding website you can stalk to find the info?
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview
do you have the host on facebook? Maybe message her and let her know there isn’t a number to rsvp to. Or tell the bride you don’t know the number to rsvp 🙂
Post # 10
Is it a “save the date” for the shower? I’ve received two of these now and I thought the first one was missing the RSVP as well!
Post # 11
is there a return address on the envelope?
Post # 12
That’s awkward! I am guessing that it’s an oversight. Oopsies!
Post # 13
I’m guessing they just forgot to put the RSVP info. How silly to put your names as hosts (I don’t get this– why does a guest give two craps about who is hosting?) but not remember to put a way to contact them!
If you know anyone else invited I’d maybe ask them if they know the host. Or maybe the bride’s mom would know something about it? I guess it’s possible that they just don’t need a headcount, but as a hostess I’d freak out about that.
Post # 14
Same question as other posters, did the envelope have a return address?
If so, just hand write your RSVP and drop it in the mail. Address it to all of their names if fhe return address iisn’t clear.
Post # 15
No return address. I wasn’t sure what it was until I opened it.
No wedding website 🙁
I don’t have the host on facebook… I don’t think she uses it.
I don’t think so, the shower is about a month away and they did put registry details at the bottom.
I know I’d want to know exactly who was coming to get a sense of how much food/drink/what types of games would be good etc. I found it really strange!!
I’ll have to figure out who’s in the bridal party and reach out to one of them. I just though it was so strange that there was NOTHING for info to respond.
said is interesting; I’m wondering if this is the typical way people do it, because the last “surprise” bridal shower I got invited to didn’t have any RSVP info either. I didn’t know how to respond (this was even worse, I barely knew anyone in the wedding besides the bride and groom) and eventually one of the hosts started making calls to see who was coming and called me directly for my rsvp.
Thanks for your input everyone! I’ll have to do some facebook digging to see if I can find one of the people who are hosting!