Post # 1
I hope I explain this ok….
My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and is throwing me a shower. She has put a lot of time and effort into it so far and other than actually sending invites is done with planning. So before that gets thrown out there combining the two showers isn’t an option at this point.
I have just recently found out that my fiancé’s aunt wants to throw a shower and from all indications will be a “family” shower. His family is hard to get straight answers out of. I think she is planning on inviting my mom and sister (at least I hope so or this gets even more awkward…I do not have no other close female relatives) but I haven’t been able to find out.
The shower my sister is planning is small and intimate; less than 20 people including her my mom and myself…my question is this: If his aunt is throwing a family shower do I have to invite his aunts and female cousins to the shower my sister is throwing too? If I did there would be only be room for my 4 bridesmaids and no other friends. I worry about hurt feelings if other than his mom and sister (who is also a bridesmaid), I only invite my friends to my sister’s.
Post # 2
I say let each throwing your shower sort it out they way each envisions for you.
Post # 3
i would invite everyone to the second shower, whether they came to the first or not.
i’m having a similar issue -FSIL and fi’s aunt offered to throw me a small get together/shower, but when my mom asked if my grandma, aunt, counsin and moh could come they said they wanted to keep it smaller… so my mom and moh are throwing me another one… i think they’ll invite everyone to the second one and if fi’s family doesn’t want to come to the second one, we wont be offended but i just don’t want anyone to feel left out because they didn’t get an invite.<br /><br />I know its all done with good intentions, and its super sweet of them to do anything like this but i really wish they would of allowed everyone, or not done it at all, its just gets too complicated and i’m afraid feelings will get hurt =(
Post # 4
Guests should only receive the honour of gifting you once. It sounds like his family is hosting a shower for their side of the family (and adding your immidiate relatives). Just let that happen. It doesn’t seem like they are really asking for your input on the guest list.
Post # 5
My sister is the one asking for guest list and I don’t know what to tell her. Since his aunt is throwing one too do I need to invite his aunts and cousins to the one my sister is throwing too? If I can I would prefer to invite just friends to the one my sister is throwing.
Post # 6
Don’t shower double dip (except your mom and sister, who should be at both).
I had a friends only shower and also a family shower, thrown by two different people, there was ZERO guest overlap except my mom and me. If I had a sister she probably would have been at both as well. Inviting people to multiple showers typically isn’t done – it seems a bit grabby. You’re doing the right thing.