(Closed) Bridal Shower invitees

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

I think you should ask your FMIL!

I know for my Future Mother-In-Law, she doesn’t have any daughters, so inviting some of her friends to mine is A-ok with me. She won’t really get another chance as one of her sons eloped and the other is not getting married anytime soon!

Post # 4
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

Oh and some clarification examples:

FMIL’s best friend whom I’ve met before and with whom they vacation: invited

FMIL’s church friends who don’t even know Fiance: not invited


Post # 5
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My person opinion–yes, they should get an invite. The only female wedding guests that were not invited to shower were wives/girlfriends of husbands friends (with the exception of a few).  You may want to try to softly bring up the subject with Future Mother-In-Law to see how strongly she feels about it…

Post # 6
235 posts
Helper bee

You should probably invite the local women on your FMIL’s list, but you shouldn’t worry about any who live far away. It actually can be a nice time for you to get to know her friends before the wedding so that day won’t be so awkward.  Don’t worry about seeming “greedy”….if they don’t want to come, they won’t!

Post # 7
5761 posts
Bee Keeper

Are you doing the inviting for your own shower? Why? Somebody else really should be taking care of this other than you.

I’m the MOB and my daughter’s shower will be a surprise, given by the Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man . We’ve invited only those women she is closest to as well as family members. I’ve invited one friend I’ve known for years and who is close to both my daughters. All are invited to the wedding.

Post # 9
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Sometimes, brides have two showers…one with her family and friends and then one with the FIL’s family and friends.

Post # 10
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have/had the same problem.  There are a lot of women on the wedding list that I don’t know.  Some are FMIL’s friends, some are my FI’s friends girlfriends but in the end I didn’t invite them to the shower.  This whole shower is basically for my Future Mother-In-Law anyway, I’m not having more people that I don’t know!  That probably sounds really immature but I can’t help it 🙂

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