Post # 1
Should you invite out of town family even if you know they wont come? Are they supposed to be..or do you leave them out so it doesnt look like you are fishing for gifts..Im not sure how that works.. I dont expect them to come to the shower cuase its a 5 hour drive for one day.. but I dont want to be rude and leave them out either..
Post # 3
I invited all women from “my side” of the guest list who were a reasonable drive away. I had about 6 girls drive in from my home town (6 hour drive) and I think they would have been hurt if I didn’t think they would do that for me. I didn’t invite the people that would have to buy plane tickets but those people mostly came from DH’s side, and a lot of them sent me a gift anyway, so maybe I SHOULD have at least invited them.
Post # 4
I think you should invite all your female members of your family that are invited to the wedding, even if they are far away. I think this is traditional etiquette (at least I’ve seen that in my experience), because it’s a nice gesture for those who can’t attend.