(Closed) Bridal Shower Invites

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Totally depends on your area/friends.  Can you try asking a few of your friends that may or may not be coming about it?  I have been to more than one bridal shower where I wasn’t invited to the wedding.

Sometimes it was direct invite, other times it was open invite in the church bulletin.

Post # 4
1341 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Yes it is tacky. It’s like asking for gifts. If you want to celebrate with those friends, then after the wedding maybe have a house party or do a dinner at a restaurant.

Post # 5
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would never invite people to any wedding-related event if they weren’t invited to the wedding.  It’s poor etiquette, anda even though some people might be okay with it, not everyone will be. I’d err on the side of caution personally.

Post # 6
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mrsfelda0914:  Personally, I would be offended if I was invited to a shower (which means = bring a gift or money) but would not be invited to the wedding. I wouldn’t do it.

Post # 7
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t invite people to your shower who are not invited to the wedding.

Post # 8
1144 posts
Bumble bee

I would be a little insulted if I was invited to a shower and not to a wedding tbh. It’s like am I not good enough to be invited to both? Totally awkward. IMO, only people who are to be at the wedding should be at the shower.

Post # 9
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

In general, showers are only for wedding guests. The exceptions are work and church showers.

Post # 11
184 posts
Blushing bee


I live in the southern United States.  It is considered poor etiquette to invite people to your teas and showers and not invite them to the wedding.


Post # 12
2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Can you have a ‘housewarming’ or ‘welcome home’ luncheon or casual dinner party after the wedding & you get back from your honeymoon? Invite your friends and people who could not be invited to the wedding.  That way you could still celebrate with your guests but they would not have to bring a gift.

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