Post # 1
My mother and BM’s are throwing my shower….
My future s-in-law lives in FL and 2 of my FI’s friends wives also live out of state (at least 10+ hours away). Should I still send these peple an invite – even though I am 99% sure they won’t come – and I don’t expect them to come either…. Should I still send them a courtesy invite – I’m not doing it because I want gifts, I just don’t want them to feel “left out”….
Post # 3
I would send them invites so they don’t feel left out.
Post # 4
I agree I would send the invites as well if they are close to you (emotionally).
Post # 5
I am NOT close w/ any of them – I just know that I was invited to all the wives’ baby showers and bridal showers so I feel like I should be sending out the obligatory invite as well……lame huh?
Post # 6
I’m inviting people like this. I just sent them an email ahead of time letting them know that I understood it would be difficult for them to make it, but that if they were available and interested, I’d love to have them at my shower. They all responded magnanimously, telling me that they were so glad/happy I thought of them even if they can’t make it. It can be a nice gesture so long as it isn’t perceived as an unreasonable expectation.
Post # 7
I think the basic rule of etiquette is that you invite all the women who are invited to the wedding. We’re inviting my fiance’s female relatives to my shower out of courtesy even though they live out of town and I have never met any of them. It’s doubtful that they’ll come, but at least we’re extending the invitation and making them feel included.
Post # 8
Thanks for the help everyone! I asked my mom to put aside the long-distance invits and I am going to uck in a little note explaining that if they happen to be in town (since its the weekend after the 4th of July and they have family in the same town) then we would love to see them but if they can’t make it I will look forward to seeing them for the wedding.