Post # 1
I got into a debate with my grandmother last night about one of my bridal shower themes and I wanted to get your opinion.
The theme of my bridal shower is “Pretty in Pink” and everything will be, well, pink. I had mentioned that I would like the invites to suggest that the ladies coming wear pink as well to go with the theme and my grandmother immediately stated that this was rude.
While I have been to many successful showers (bridal and baby) where colors are requested to be worn she hadn’t ever heard of this idea. In her mind if someone doesn’t have pink they will just not come instead of either trying to find something or making do without it. She refused to help plan in a shower that indicated such a requirement on the invitations.
Now tell me bees, is it really rude to ask that the guests wear pink? What if I modified the wording to “if possible please wear pink” or something of that nature? Would you be offended if you were asked to wear a color to a themed party/shower? If you didn’t have pink would you NOT go to the shower?
I added a basic poll but would love additional input.
Post # 3
I personally wouldn’t care at all. I think other people might find some way to be offended by that, but I think that is kind of ridiculous. People will still show up not wearing pink, you can’t force anyone to wear anything, but I don’t think it’s rude to suggest it.
Post # 4
I think it’s all about how you word it.
What about saying: To keep with the festive theme, wear pink if you’d like… or something like that. That way, they know that you’d like them to wear pink, but it’s not manditory and not stressful if they don’t have anything pink.
Post # 5
I would still attend but I would be a little miffed that someone was trying to dictate what I wore.
I do agree with your grandma that that is kind of rude.
You’d have to make sure the wording was as such that people knew it was totally 100% okay for them to wear whatever color if they don’t own or don’t want to wear pink.
Post # 6
I think it’d be cute. Maybe you could just request a splash of pink or something? So that people could wear pink accessories?
I would go, and I wouldn’t exactly find it rude, but I’d feel like I couldn’t go if I wasn’t sporting pink. So it may depend on the wording.
Post # 7
@DeathByDesign: Yeah I have the same feeling. I attended a baby shower last year where I had to wear yellow (which I look horrible in). I never once thought it was rude and was happy to go with the theme (ducks…too fun).
I guess I just don’t see any difference in “please wear pink” and “please wear ugly 80’s clothing to accomodate our fun theme.” People are happy to dress up for a party why would a bridal shower be any exception?
Post # 8
I wouldn’t care at all. I don’t think someone wouldn’t come because they didn’t have something pink to wear, I think they just wouldn’t wear pink. I think it’s a cute idea.
Post # 9
I actually like themed parties..especially where we get to come in theme or costume lol
Case in point: My friend’s ABC birthday party (anything but clothes).. I wore duct tape and a laundry basket lol.
Post # 10
@oracle: “To keep with the festive theme, wear pink if you’d like…”
I agree, that would be the best way to word it. I really do think guests would be put off by being told what to wear. I don’t own any pink, for example, and would have to go buy something or risk being odd one out, possibly upsetting the host, etc.
Post # 11
I would. For my BFF’s bridal shower the wedding party just dressed in black and white though to distinguish ourselves.
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s rude, but then again, pink is my favorite color so I’m biased. If I got an invitation that requested I wore orange, that’d be a different story because I own nothing orange. But if it were a close enough friend, I’d go buy an orange shirt, show up, and smile.
Post # 13
yeah i don’t think you can dictate what color your guest should wear. id be majorly annoyed.
however, like a previous poster mentioned- you could encourage them to wear pink. but you have to be VERY careful about the wording. very careful!
Post # 14
I went to my friend’s bridal shower 2 years ago. Our circle of friends are all huge Ravens fans (very sad about their loss…) and she requested that everyone wear purple or their jerseys. Practically everyone participated and it turned out really cute.
I say make it a request on the invite and most people will happily oblige.
Post # 15
Since you two bees are the most against the idea would you kindly suggest wording that you wouldn’t be annoyed/miffed by.
Post # 16
Maybe it could be worded something about feel free to be festive and wear pink or something like there’s a special prize for the the most festively themed outfit? Honestly it wouldn’t bother me to have a pink dress request, but I can see where some people would be bothered.