(Closed) Bridal Shower: Is it rude?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Would you attend a bridal shower that asked guests to wear a certain color for the theme?
    Yes. : (70 votes)
    28 %
    Yes and I would still attend if I didn't have pink. : (137 votes)
    54 %
    No. : (32 votes)
    13 %
    Other...? Input. : (13 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I personally wouldn’t care at all. I think other people might find some way to be offended by that, but I think that is kind of ridiculous. People will still show up not wearing pink, you can’t force anyone to wear anything, but I don’t think it’s rude to suggest it.

    Post # 4
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I think it’s all about how you word it.

    What about saying:  To keep with the festive theme, wear pink if you’d like… or something like that.  That way, they know that you’d like them to wear pink, but it’s not manditory and not stressful if they don’t have anything pink.

    Post # 5
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would still attend but I would be a little miffed that someone was trying to dictate what I wore.

    I do agree with your grandma that that is kind of rude.

    You’d have to make sure the wording was as such that people knew it was totally 100% okay for them to wear whatever color if they don’t own or don’t want to wear pink.

    Post # 6
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I think it’d be cute. Maybe you could just request a splash of pink or something? So that people could wear pink accessories?

    I would go, and I wouldn’t exactly find it rude, but I’d feel like I couldn’t go if I wasn’t sporting pink. So it may depend on the wording.

    Post # 8
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I wouldn’t care at all. I don’t think someone wouldn’t come because they didn’t have something pink to wear, I think they just wouldn’t wear pink. I think it’s a cute idea.

    Post # 9
    5183 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I actually like themed parties..especially where we get to come in theme or costume lol

    Case in point: My friend’s ABC birthday party (anything but clothes).. I wore duct tape and a laundry basket lol.

    Post # 10
    5668 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @oracle:  “To keep with the festive theme, wear pink if you’d like…”

    I agree, that would be the best way to word it. I really do think guests would be put off by being told what to wear. I don’t own any pink, for example, and would have to go buy something or risk being odd one out, possibly upsetting the host, etc.

    Post # 11
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I would. For my BFF’s bridal shower the wedding party just dressed in black and white though  to distinguish ourselves.

    Post # 12
    2731 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I don’t think it’s rude, but then again, pink is my favorite color so I’m biased. If I got an invitation that requested I wore orange, that’d be a different story because I own nothing orange. But if it were a close enough friend, I’d go buy an orange shirt, show up, and smile. 

    Post # 13
    1828 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    yeah i don’t think you can dictate what color your guest should wear. id be majorly annoyed.

    however, like a previous poster mentioned- you could encourage them to wear pink. but you have to be VERY careful about the wording. very careful!

    Post # 14
    385 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I went to my friend’s bridal shower 2 years ago. Our circle of friends are all huge Ravens fans (very sad about their loss…) and she requested that everyone wear purple or their jerseys. Practically everyone participated and it turned out really cute.

    I say make it a request on the invite and most people will happily oblige.

    Post # 16
    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Maybe it could be worded something about feel free to be festive and wear pink or something like there’s a special prize for the the most festively themed outfit?  Honestly it wouldn’t bother me to have a pink dress request, but I can see where some people would be bothered.

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