Post # 1
My friend is taking care of all my bridal shower details, except that me and my fiancé are paying for it because we don’t want to burden anybody with the added expense. So my friend sent out the shower invites at the end of may to about 60 guests. The shower is in 2 weeks and only about 10 people have responded and half of them are not coming. Should I just cancel the shower to save myself of being mortified walking into a restaurant filled with only 5 people?
Post # 3
@Peonie854: …why not? Those 5 people care, they want to see you, celebrate with you…go! You’ll have a great time!
Post # 4
As long as you are only paying for those who RSVP yes, go for it. Those people want to celebrate with you!
Post # 5
@Peonie854: if only ten people have responded yes and you still have 50 people that need to reply, how do you know that almost all 50 of those people won’t say yes and already plan on coming?
Post # 6
Why doesn’t your friend call all of the 50 people who haven’t responded yet?
Post # 7
@Peonie854: Many people aren’t going to RSVP to a shower even if you pre-stamped them. But honestly you are willing to cancel a meal with your friends becuase not enough are coming? No. I say go. It’s a restaurant. No one is going to think anything of it.
Post # 8
@Peonie854: No one else knows how many people are invited. Have fun with those who could make it. Plus… presents! 🙂
Post # 9
Well I need a head count because I am paying per person and I have to make a final payment within the next week. I just kind of feel like calling the people who didn’t respond would look very silly. Almost like I’m begging them to come.
Post # 10
If your friend is the one throwing the party and you’re just providing the finances, then get her to call people. Because its really her responsibility, and otherwise it looks like you’re throwing the shower for yourself.
Post # 11
Your friend needs to call them and follow up with those who haven’t rsvpd. I have seen lots of bridal shower invitation templates that say “RSVP regrets only” so it’s actually possible that a LOT of them are planning to come. But your friend has to call, not you. And hey, even if five come, have a nice evening out with your friends 🙂
Post # 12
@Peonie854: Unfortunately, you or your friend have to call. For my shower, my bridesmaid called everyone who never RSVPd. All except for 2 were a ‘yes.’