(Closed) Bridal Shower Issues

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow that price seems completely unreasonable.  Why do they have to have a shower with 70 people?  Granted it seems like their wedding is on the larger side since they have 10 bridesmaids but I really think that all maids should be asked about planning things like that before being asked to pony up $250 for the party, plus probably a ton more for the gift, dress, transportation, and other wedding extras.  And that is crazy that the same cousin was angry about only having to put in $100!  I wonder if she doesn’t realize what the price for her shower is going to be!

Post # 4
1102 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. They didn’t ask for your opinion or budget and went ahead without confirming that everyone was happy to pay $250 (which seems like a LOT to me especially between so many people). You have been upfront and polite about it. I’m not sure what you can do now but I wouldn’t back down – presumably your cousin asked you to be in her wedding bc she cares about you, not bc she needs your money. Good luck with sorting it out!

Post # 5
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I don’t think you are unreasonable at all!!  $250/bridesmaid x 10 = $2500…..

What are they doing for food/favors/how much is the venue?  I would politely ask for the breakdown of costs…..People need to respect over’s financial obligations and relaize that not everybody is in the same boat financially.  It shoul have been discussed prior to see what people are comfortable w/ spending and ideas should have been brought forth w/ different price ranges BEFORE anything was booked.

I am in a wedding and the Maid/Matron of Honor asked us each to contribute $150 which will cover the costs of the venue, food, favor, and some of the Bachelorette Party that night.  We are pissed because we don’t know the breakdown of the costs and haven’t been included in any of the planning.  The invites went out and we weren’t even mentioned as hosting the party – just her (MOH) and MOH’s mother……..PISSEDDDDD!


Post # 6
5385 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t think that you are being unreasonable. I think that the moh and mob are being unreasonable. They can’t just assume that everyone can afford to spend that much.

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