Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor has started asking me what I want to do about my bridal shower and I literally have no idea. Fiance and I live in Florida where one of my bridesmaids also lives. My mom and one of my bridesman live in New Jersey. My Maid/Matron of Honor lives in New York, and my remaining bridesmaid and bridesman live in DC and Pennsylvania, respectively. Obviously, the most important people to have there would be my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor, but outside my bridal party I don’t have any really super close female friends. I don’t have sisters or close female family members. I like the idea of having a bridal shower, but I don’t logistically know how we could pull one off with us so scattered. Any ideas for how to coordinate a bridal shower like this?
Post # 3
@luluvohn: Well, we’re having similar issues. We are a long distance couple and soon I’ll be moving on my own to another city. In order to make everyone feel involved this is what we came up with:
Engagement Party in City A (where I live now)
Wedding Showers in City B (where I will be moving to (or if someone else pays/hosts then their city))
Wedding in City C (where he lives now and will move to)
In your situation is it possible for you to hold it where the most amount of people are just give them plenty of room to buffer in order to save up to come to your wedding to. If it’s within budget can you pay for them? Can you see if maybe you can get a discount flight for them?
Also, do you mind holding a wedding shower and not a bridal shower so you can also invite your close male friends so it doesn’t look so empty?
Post # 4
@Sammy01: I’m more than happy to have a joint shower with Fiance, but his side is also all over the place. His family lives in Connecticut and his groomsmen and groomsmaids are in Florida, Connecticut, and Arizona. I don’t really expect people to travel for my shower, I’m already asking a lot of them to travel for the wedding. Your idea of having multiple showers isn’t a bad one. I could have one down here and one in New Jersey or Connecticut. For your multiple showers are you having the same people at multiple showers?
Post # 5
@luluvohn: No. The only people (with exception to Fiance and I) that will be getting an invitation are immidiate family members. They will not be expected to travel though as we don’t want to stress them out financially. I don’t know how much your budget is, but for us the engagement party will be about $5,000 (inviting a max of 50 people). The wedding shower in the city I will move to, we will say my mother is hosting, but we will pay for it (we don’t want to give our parents bills) and it’ll be about $2,500 (it’s cheaper there and it’s being held with mostly my family and a bit of friends from there). Then we plan on holding one in the same city as the wedding will be so his family can attend one too as they will probably not make it to the engagement party. The second shower, if someone steps up then we won’t pay for it, but if not we are budgeting about $3,000 for 40 – 50 people.