(Closed) Bridal shower: Men & women or women only?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: What do you think?
    Invite everyone! : (9 votes)
    14 %
    Invite only the women. : (51 votes)
    77 %
    Invite only the men! : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Bridal showers are lameeee : (5 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    1720 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I always thought a bridal shower was just for women, and if men were there it was odd.  Every shower I have been to or heard about has only had women there because it is for the bride.

    Post # 4
    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Technically, traditionally, bridal showers are for the bride specifically. Wedding showers are for helping to provide things for the couple for their “new home”. Household items like towels and blankets and blenders and junk, or like family herilooms. Lots of times people get you the smaller things from your registry. Bridal showers are for the bride specifically and the gifts are more personal. Think like lingerie, soaps, jewelry, perfumes, etc. 

    If it’s a BRIDAL shower, like… gifts for you, then go with just girls. If it’s a WEDDING shower, you can do both… but most guys won’t care or be interested in coming, so I’d do just women anyway. haha. But you could technically do both sexes if you wanted, for a wedding shower. 

    Any why do people think showers are lame?? I told my Maid/Matron of Honor if she’s going to do one for me at all, and if she’s only doing one, then to do a wedding shower. Nobody would know what perfumes/jewelry/lingerie I would like, but I WOULD like things for a house! No, I’m not social, and these are awkward, but free presents and food are never lame!! I’m poor, dang it! lol 


    Post # 6
    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    I was under the impression that traditionally the bridal shower is for just the bride and women invited to the wedding. And personally, that is what I (and my FI!) will prefer. He totally does not want to get dressed up and be the center of attention more than once, on our actual wedding day haha.

    But, to those that do mixed showers, if it works for them I say more power to them! I’m sure we’ve got some super creative bees who know how/have planned an awesome mixed shower 🙂

    Post # 7
    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I wanted to do a couple’s shower, but it looks like Fiance and I won’t be in the same country at the time, so… ladies only, it is! Mostly I wanted the co-ed thing because most of my family/friends have never met Fiance in person, though they’re really excited about our relationship because they see (mostly via Facebook and Skype haha) how happy we are together! I thought it would be a good opportunity to introduce him formally. Anyway… getting excited now about a girls only event. :o) It DOES mean a small guest list, which I love.

    Post # 8
    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wanted women-only, I know someone who did it mixed and I also felt like it was kind of pointless because she invited so many people (and had it in the backyard, which was the same place they had their wedding), it felt kind of redundant because it was so similar to being at the actual wedding. And then it ended up turning into a beer/football watching thing when the game started, thanks to the guys.

    Post # 9
    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @DrTeeth:  If it’s not a couple’s shower and your fiance won’t be in attendance, then I think you should only invite women. I’m having a bridal shower in a few weeks and since my fiance won’t be there and it’s just a bridal shower, the hostesses excluded all men from the list of whom to invite. Hope this helps! 🙂

    Post # 10
    6512 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We had a co-ed wedding shower, because both the Maid/Matron of Honor and the Best Man wanted to be involved in the planning.  It was a lot of fun, but def different than a girls-only event would have been.  It really depends on what type of event you want – it sounds like you’d prefer the more traditional bridal shower, so go for it 🙂

    Post # 11
    2105 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I have been to several bridal showers (women only) and one wedding/couples shower (men and women). Couples showers suck! They tried to make it more man-friendly by having beer and wine but the men had zero patience for shower games. They got rowdy and chatty and everything took twice as long. It was a lovely shower but all the guys were bored out of their wits. 

    Post # 12
    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I didn’t vote because it depends on the crowd.  If it means inviting the whole wedding than nix that idea and have the woman only.  If its only your besties coming out and all the guys get along than why not have them all?  Granted I am thinking of a small shower in that case with only 15-20 people.  

    We had one shower with some guys there i.e. my Darling Husband, Future Father-In-Law, Brother-In-Law but if we invited all the guys of the woman that came than the guest list would be at 150.  Might as well ask my BMs to pay for a second wedding!!

    Post # 13
    8471 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Where I come from, it was always just women.  But it definitely varies because I went to one a long time ago for a co-worker where it was like being at a club, with both men and women, insanely loud music, LOTS of drinking, and even babies!

    Post # 14
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Women only in my circle. The groom/dad-to-be might pop by and ooh and ahh over a few gifts, but it is for a very short time and definitely not something that always happens.

    Post # 15
    4945 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I know that my husband would never want to go to a shower. Tongue Out In fact, no man I know would. ha!

    Post # 16
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think you should do what you want! If you just want to have a traditional bridal shower, that is just for women. A wedding or couples shower can include both men & women. Darling Husband & I wanted to do a couples shower (really only family) because our families rarely get together. We all had so much fun! But it definitely wasn’t a bridal shower.. no games or anything like that. The Maid/Matron of Honor & Best Man hosted ours. 

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