Post # 1
So, FI’s cousin had her bridal shower last summer and it was a mix of men, women, children.
My bridesmaids are planning a bridal shower for me for this coming summer and I’m making them a guest list. I was under the impression that bridal showers were for the women only? Maybe I’m wrong, I’ve only been to a handful.
Personally, I think it would be fun to have it be only women – if I invited everyone it would be the entire wedding guest list and that’s a lot of people o.O I’d rather a small get-together sort of feel (I’m going to be anxious enough if they make me open presents in front of everyone :|).
Would it be poor etiquette to exclude the men?
Post # 3
I always thought a bridal shower was just for women, and if men were there it was odd. Every shower I have been to or heard about has only had women there because it is for the bride.
Post # 4
Technically, traditionally, bridal showers are for the bride specifically. Wedding showers are for helping to provide things for the couple for their “new home”. Household items like towels and blankets and blenders and junk, or like family herilooms. Lots of times people get you the smaller things from your registry. Bridal showers are for the bride specifically and the gifts are more personal. Think like lingerie, soaps, jewelry, perfumes, etc.
If it’s a BRIDAL shower, like… gifts for you, then go with just girls. If it’s a WEDDING shower, you can do both… but most guys won’t care or be interested in coming, so I’d do just women anyway. haha. But you could technically do both sexes if you wanted, for a wedding shower.
Any why do people think showers are lame?? I told my Maid/Matron of Honor if she’s going to do one for me at all, and if she’s only doing one, then to do a wedding shower. Nobody would know what perfumes/jewelry/lingerie I would like, but I WOULD like things for a house! No, I’m not social, and these are awkward, but free presents and food are never lame!! I’m poor, dang it! lol
Post # 5
@yanamari: +1 I definitely agree!!!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
I was under the impression that traditionally the bridal shower is for just the bride and women invited to the wedding. And personally, that is what I (and my FI!) will prefer. He totally does not want to get dressed up and be the center of attention more than once, on our actual wedding day haha.
But, to those that do mixed showers, if it works for them I say more power to them! I’m sure we’ve got some super creative bees who know how/have planned an awesome mixed shower 🙂
Post # 7
I wanted to do a couple’s shower, but it looks like Fiance and I won’t be in the same country at the time, so… ladies only, it is! Mostly I wanted the co-ed thing because most of my family/friends have never met Fiance in person, though they’re really excited about our relationship because they see (mostly via Facebook and Skype haha) how happy we are together! I thought it would be a good opportunity to introduce him formally. Anyway… getting excited now about a girls only event. :o) It DOES mean a small guest list, which I love.
Post # 8
I wanted women-only, I know someone who did it mixed and I also felt like it was kind of pointless because she invited so many people (and had it in the backyard, which was the same place they had their wedding), it felt kind of redundant because it was so similar to being at the actual wedding. And then it ended up turning into a beer/football watching thing when the game started, thanks to the guys.
Post # 9
@DrTeeth: If it’s not a couple’s shower and your fiance won’t be in attendance, then I think you should only invite women. I’m having a bridal shower in a few weeks and since my fiance won’t be there and it’s just a bridal shower, the hostesses excluded all men from the list of whom to invite. Hope this helps! 🙂
Post # 10
We had a co-ed wedding shower, because both the Maid/Matron of Honor and the Best Man wanted to be involved in the planning. It was a lot of fun, but def different than a girls-only event would have been. It really depends on what type of event you want – it sounds like you’d prefer the more traditional bridal shower, so go for it 🙂
Post # 11
I have been to several bridal showers (women only) and one wedding/couples shower (men and women). Couples showers suck! They tried to make it more man-friendly by having beer and wine but the men had zero patience for shower games. They got rowdy and chatty and everything took twice as long. It was a lovely shower but all the guys were bored out of their wits.
Post # 12
I didn’t vote because it depends on the crowd. If it means inviting the whole wedding than nix that idea and have the woman only. If its only your besties coming out and all the guys get along than why not have them all? Granted I am thinking of a small shower in that case with only 15-20 people.
We had one shower with some guys there i.e. my Darling Husband, Future Father-In-Law, Brother-In-Law but if we invited all the guys of the woman that came than the guest list would be at 150. Might as well ask my BMs to pay for a second wedding!!
Post # 13
Where I come from, it was always just women. But it definitely varies because I went to one a long time ago for a co-worker where it was like being at a club, with both men and women, insanely loud music, LOTS of drinking, and even babies!
Post # 14
Women only in my circle. The groom/dad-to-be might pop by and ooh and ahh over a few gifts, but it is for a very short time and definitely not something that always happens.
Post # 15
I know that my husband would never want to go to a shower. In fact, no man I know would. ha!
Post # 16
I think you should do what you want! If you just want to have a traditional bridal shower, that is just for women. A wedding or couples shower can include both men & women. Darling Husband & I wanted to do a couples shower (really only family) because our families rarely get together. We all had so much fun! But it definitely wasn’t a bridal shower.. no games or anything like that. The Maid/Matron of Honor & Best Man hosted ours.