(Closed) Bridal shower, MOH drama HELP!!

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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540 posts
Busy bee

Is she your sister or close relative, otherwise why the heck would you have somebody that you have always been competitive with as your Maid/Matron of Honor. And here’s an idea, schedule your photo session since you don’t have any other plans on your calendar. I’m not trying to be a smart ass, but who is planning your wedding, you or her? The makeup trial is really not that important, what if you hate it and you have to wear crazy makeup to your shower? As far as the ring, do you need to be present while your jeweller resets the ring?

I think having a surprise showeris a really bad idea in general, so I’m with you on that, but since there is nothing you can do about it, you need to move forward with your other planning.

Post # 4
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

If she is close enough to be your moh just sit her down and nicely tell her what you need. If she doesn’t want to be in the wedding because of her HAIR then maybe she shouldn’t be in the wedding at all. She obviously has deeper insecurity issues if she doesnt want all the attention on her best friend, you, the bride!

Post # 5
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46408 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would tell her that while I appreciate her wish to have a surprise shower, I need to schedule the photographer and the jeweler (both of which I’m sure could be done on the same day).

I would tell her that she had two choices: give me some dates that are ok to book those appointments, or let me go ahead and book my appointments and risk conflicting with the date of the shower.

Post # 8
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3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have this exact same problem with my Maid/Matron of Honor, except instead of fighting me on everything she is just totally apathetic. Never has time to be involved, won’t solidify a date for my shower or bachelorette, etc. and she was SO excited when I asked…whatever. I’ve decided to just schedule my shit and if she tells me a few weeks before and it conflicts with my plans I’m just going to tell her SORRY! Should’ve checked with me since these are MY wedding events! Just do you. 🙂

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